My beautiful girls comment (from EX)

[Emboo19]

Have very recently broken up with my daughters dad (he cheated). I'm currently on holiday, which he should have been on too if he wasn't a dirty cheat.
Anyway, posted a photo earlier of me and DD on instagram and he's just commented, my beautiful girls (love heart eyes and heart emojis included).
I know I'm not unreasonable to think wft!! But am I unreasonable to comment back, I'm not your fucking girl anymore, remember you fucked someone else!

For what it's worth we are trying to be civil and get on for DD's sake, so I know I should just politely message him and say I don't think it's appropriate.
But I'm currently sat with a not very well DD for the second night in a row and I'm feeling really rageful towards him!!

Leave it up, as if you haven't even noticed. Give no indication that you even saw It, once again silence is the biggest insult!

God, yes, leave it up! It's less inappropriate than his comment, isn't it?

Your friend is clearly a mumsnetter - saw this - and saved you the bother!

Don't rush to delete

Your friend is great

She really is great! Definitely not a mumsnetter though Allthebest.

Both posts are still there, his brothers added a laughing/crying emoji face too. He's not commented or anything, but he's posted a picture on his own insta of me and DD saying, missing these two.
I think he must have been drunk, as I had a stream of, I love you, I'm sorry, messages as well last night and he tried phoning in the early hours.
Either that or me facetiming so he can see DD, makes him think I've forgiven him 😂

What a dick splash.

Love that your friend wrote that

Although on the downside, my friends comment has notified my instagram friends that we've broken up! And I'm now getting messages from well meaning friends haven't spoken to me since leaving school asking what's happened. Oh and a lovely proposition to help me get over him! Err, no thanks creepy guy I don't even remember adding and who's now blocked!!

Best of both worlds there. You haven't dignified it with a reply but a sarcastic comment has been left for others to pick up on. Hurrah!

I can never keep my mouth shut so I would probably have said "Is something wrong with your memory or your eyesight? You only have one daughter. Or is there something else I don't know?" But yeah - letting your friend have her say and then quietly deleting later is the way forward. And if he does it again, let him know you will be reviewing his permission to see your pictures in future.

Bah, missed a page out. Missing you eh? Pity he didn't think that might happen before dipping his wick. Bit late now.

Hehe nice one friend of OP. Hope your dd feels better soon.

We all need friends like that!

Everyone loves gossip and drama, any hint of a relationship problem and people are all over it!

Leave the post up. Add a comment of your own of a simple "ha you must be kidding" type way, just because if you do nothing it sort of lets him get away with it and lets his comment stand for all to see which is what he wants, and then let your friends laugh in his face via emojis and their comments. Ignore all his stream of I love you messages.

Stay strong and look around you on your holiday, live it, soak it up and enjoy yourselves.

Hi my Lovely, I'm sorry to hear DD isn't well, especially on holiday 😖😕. I hope she's ok to fly home. Feeding her on take off & landing will help, as will calpol beforehand. Poor little mite..

Sorry if I missed any threads about him cheating & you breaking up with him. He's had SO many chances to be a decent partner & Dad & every time the stupid immature twat throws it back in your face. He really needs to grow up & fast. I think he does love you & DD, he's just seems unable to stop being a dick head 'lad' and grow up. Sadly, I think it would be a mistake to let him worm his way back into a relationship with you, right now at least. I really want to shake the stupid little git and ask him WTAF he thinks he's playing at?

Anyway, leave the photo & comments there. They're doing the work for you!

Emboo prepare yourself for many more of those propositions now the news is out.

The number of women's husbands (including those of friends) I suddenly became irresistable to was eye opening...

I think you know you shouldn't write that (or any bloody reply to that arse!) which is why you have posted here. So well done! Being the bigger person sucks. But your daughter will admire you for it in the long run.
Vent away on another platform that is less public and persons to you (here if you like)
I hope you manage to enjoy your holiday. He is obviously wallowing in regret and self pity. Let that be enough for you

There's nothing wrong about being the bigger person but social media doesn't help (especially in the early days) and I would discourage well meaning friends from turning into a public laundromat.

You can send him picture without opening yourself up to his crap publicly. The early days are the hardest, when detaching can be very difficult but the long term goal is indifference and social medial is an environment that fosters the opposite emotions.

Ignore his comments and if there's a way for him to view the photos without you being exposed to his comments then that's the path you should take, if not, block him and send him a batch of photos once a month.

He's just text, completely normal asking if DD is any better and can he FaceTime when he's home from work. No mention of the photos or the 9 texts last night and the phonecall!
We discussed social media and texting etc just before I came away. We both wanted to be able to keep things friendly and not be blocking each other and all that. Think we might be needing a rethink!

Thanks AnnieAnoniMouse typical first time she's really poorly is on holiday!
It's very new, only found out a week or so ago. But it's definitely over!

I would have a think about blocking. It doesn't have to be hostile. It's so raw and boundaries need to be drawn.

You can still share photos via what's app or messenger etc.

It sounds to me like he isn't taking your break up seriously. Maybe you need to distance yourself more. Don't FaceTime him.

You news is out so be careful how this goes as you don't want all your personal life splashed over fb etc for all your mutual friends to get involved in.

When home I would reiterate your previous agreements on social media and tell him in no uncertain terms if this crap happens again he's blocked.

I suspect he wants you back. You are being so right trying to keep it all civil for your dds sake but he has to understand boundaries know that's obviously been a problem for him.

Hope your dd is better now. Ear infections are so nasty

Yep - typical to be unwell on holiday 😖😕. Especially when you really, really, could do without it.

My foot is just itching to connect with his arse 😤 Mind you, I think he'll be kicking himself. He could have had everything - lovely, lovely partner & DD. He's chucked it all away (again), this time for a quick leg over, stupid, stupid idiot.

You're very strong & you have your head screwed on, I'm sure you'll sort the social media/photos/boundaries out.

You deserve so much more than this 💐

I'd probably comment underneath

^^ my beautiful girl*

😂 There you go, you didn't need to do anything, leave it there for the world to see.

He's not blocked as we agreed we'd keep each but other as friends so we could share pics of DD.

You can share pics of your daughter via text, email and other channels.

Keeping him on your social media account, is just causing drama.