Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To feel guilty and grateful at the same time?

5 replies

InThisTogether · 10/09/2017 14:38

Currently in a 4 bed ward on a women's health unit of an nhs hospital due to being admitted by my gp a few nights ago.
I developed a severe infection in my leg from a bite and needed i.v antibiotics hence they have kept me in.
I'm 28 weeks pregnant with DC1 after 4 long years ttc and of course this is my first priority but on the curtained ward I'm on, in the bed opposite me is a lady with an ectopic pregnancy and the bed to my left is a young lady (18) experiencing a miscarriage at 12 weeks.

I am lying here trying not to listen (3 feet away from me) and trying to cover my bump because I feel so guilty for sitting here with it. I'm sure they must be so sad and so furious with me. I think I'm coming across as rude through the awkwardness. I am trying to keep my curtains closed but lots of staff in and out means they keep opening them.
AIBU to be behaving this way?
Just don't know what to do.

OP posts:
Nowifi · 10/09/2017 14:43

Not your fault and you don't have any reason to feel guilty. Bit insensitive of the hospital though. Get better soon Flowers

ScipioAfricanus · 10/09/2017 14:46

You're being really thoughtful. It's horrible the way everything is lumped together in the NHs. I used to find it hard having my infertility investigations in the same place as all the pregnant ladies but it wasn't their fault. I think you're doing all you can and of course you don't need to feel guilty. Hope you can get home soon.

welliesandsequins · 10/09/2017 14:48

I totally understand how you feel. When I was pregnant with dd was admitted with severe morning sickness. The only other girl (she was 19) on the ward was there because her baby's heart had stopped. She was 20 weeks pregnant and was going to have to give birth the next day. She cried all night. It was awful. But it's not your fault. If you get the opportunity be as kind as you can. But it sounds like you'll be sensitive and caring. Please don't feel guilty.

InThisTogether · 10/09/2017 14:55

Thanks all... maybe I'm overthinking it all because we had such a tough time ttc too so I'm oversensitive. In my hospital the (in)fertility clinic was within the maternity department and I used to be so envious of the ladies going past me with their lovely bumps. Maybe I'm projecting my own "stuff" here a little. Thanks all x

OP posts:
InThisTogether · 10/09/2017 14:55

Thanks all... maybe I'm overthinking it all because we had such a tough time ttc too so I'm oversensitive. In my hospital the (in)fertility clinic was within the maternity department and I used to be so envious of the ladies going past me with their lovely bumps. Maybe I'm projecting my own "stuff" here a little. Thanks all x

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread