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Neighbours asking for help

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CarolsSecretCookieRecipe · 10/09/2017 12:59

More of a WWYD I guess. Our next door neighbours are repeatedly asking my DH for assistance with various household jobs. My DH is a bit of a handyman (not that I get much stuff done around here ;)) and when we first moved in here, he initially helped them fit a TV to their wall. They actually asked for help with it, which I personally thought was a bit brazen when we'd just moved in, but anyway...

Since then, whenever something's not working, or they need a picture hung, etc, they seem to ask DH. The guy doesn't own his own drill, so will invariably borrow DH's, which then seems to morph into needing his help with the actual job.

They've really pee'd me off tonight. We just stuck our heads out of our front door to admire the sunset and the guy pounced on DH with another request for help and he's now been gone over an hour, and his dinner's gone cold. It's as if they lie in wait for us to go out the front.

Obviously DH just needs to learn to say "no" I suppose, but any ideas on how to put this into action? Thank you :) (We're not in the UK by the way)

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Maelstrop · 10/09/2017 14:32

Asking for such minor stuff constantly would drive me nuts. What does your DH think? Does he mind?

Thesecondtoast · 10/09/2017 14:45

My DP rewired the whole upstairs of our neighbour's house. I wouldn't have minded too much but we are living in a fix it upper and he hasn't done ours yet!

CarolsSecretCookieRecipe · 10/09/2017 15:18

Thanks for the replies :)

DH didn't mind to start off with, but now he's feeling put-upon.

The neighbours aren't elderly, younger than us, both work FT.

No, they aren't effusive with thank-yous. They really only speak to us when they want something.

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Fairenuff · 10/09/2017 16:31

DH didn't mind to start off with, but now he's feeling put-upon.

Then he needs to put his big boy pants on and say no.

hellejuice91 · 10/09/2017 16:37

We have neighbours who we help and they help us - it is a two way street. My husband works from home so we will have their stuff delivered here if it's important, he has helped them hang shelves but they have also helped us moved furniture etc.

If we could help we always would, however it is up to you to say no if it's inconvenient otherwise how will they know?

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