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Neighbours using our garden!!!

94 replies

SimplyPut · 09/09/2017 21:04

Arrived home 45min ago to find our next door neighbours, their dc and parents sat on our patio furniture drinking wine!!! Bold as flipping brass!!!

I went out to go to the bin, there they are. The wife looked slightly sheepish and said 'we thought you were away for the weekend, and the dc like your trampoline' Hmm. What the fuck???

In pathetic British fashion I found myself apologising and saying how I don't mind the kids playing with ours but we when we are home. I'm pathetic!

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SimplyPut · 09/09/2017 21:16

A lock will be purchased tomorrow and fitted forthwith! Their garden is bloody bigger than ours, they can buy their own trampoline!

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GoodMorning1 · 09/09/2017 21:16

Unless their garden is nice, in which case start using it without permission!

EyesUnderARock · 09/09/2017 21:18

Why didn't they just ask if they could use your stuff before they did anything? That's the civilised way to do things.

silverbell64 · 09/09/2017 21:18

I don't get the layout here. You have a garden or a sort of patio? how tall is the gate? So people actually went in your garden?

PerfectlyPooPoo · 09/09/2017 21:19

It's a shared lane silver, probably at the back of the garden.

DisorderedAllsorts · 09/09/2017 21:19

I'd have been tempted to report them for tresspassing or saying that you had a break in and let them squirm their way explaining themselves to the police.

Failing that a letter from a solicitor warning them not what to trespass again & explaining the consequences if they are caught again. They will do it again and you don't know how long they have been doing it for.

I would also be tempted to mention the incident to a few gossips neighbours so they can also be on their guard against them. Bloody cheek.

LittleWitch · 09/09/2017 21:19

We live in a former industrial building that has been converted into duplex apartments. There is a central enclosed courtyard with seating, plants etc that is accessible to half of the apartments (including ours) and an actual garden that is accessible to three of them. One of those three also has access to the courtyard.

The other day DH caught one of our neighbours, who doesn't have access to either the garden or the courtyard, showing potential buyers around both areas, giving a spiel about how lovely these private spaces are. She appeared to have a key to the courtyard and was pointing out how to use the through route between the courtyard and parking area.

We don't know how she has come by a key, and we can't really go having the locks changed as that would mean a debate in the residents committee that we don't want to start Wink. I don't know about criminal middle classes, I reckon these sorts are just out and out cheeky fuckers Grin.

silverbell64 · 09/09/2017 21:19

Your neighbours that have a garden actually went into yours?

Supermagicsmile · 09/09/2017 21:20

Pop over to theirs tomorrow night and sit in their garden ;)

Hunkle · 09/09/2017 21:21

These threads always make me quite sad at the probable shitness of my own garden, as my neighbours never use it at will sad

I hear ya. we could swap with eachother though

BluePheasant · 09/09/2017 21:21

I bet they buy their own trampoline come next summer now they can't make use of yours anymore!

MissMogwai · 09/09/2017 21:23

Cheeky fuckers! Can't imagine thinking "Oh the neighbours are away, let's sit in their garden"

Wonder how many times they've done that!

silverbell64 · 09/09/2017 21:24

I just don't get it. Maybe I'm surrounded by normal.

expatinscotland · 09/09/2017 21:24

Don't be so wet! Put a lock on that gate and a sign up saying private property blah blah blah. They get hurt on your property they can sue the shit out of you. Since you were so wet send your h over there to knock and tell them not to use your garden without your permission, it's not at all appreciated.

SmilingButClueless · 09/09/2017 21:25

I'm wondering whether you have the same neighbours as this poster. If not, there seems to be a bit of an epidemic of garden trespass.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3012158-To-not-preemptively-report-neighbours-to-the-police?pg=1

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 09/09/2017 21:26

I don't blame you for being shocked and blurting out the first thing that came to you

I would get that lock and pop over for a friendly but firm chat saying of course they're not bloody allowed in your garden

Trollspoopglitter · 09/09/2017 21:28

What exactly is the consequence for trespassing? It's not a criminal offense.

VeryCunningStunt · 09/09/2017 21:30

I'd have been tempted to report them for tresspassing or saying that you had a break in and let them squirm their way explaining themselves to the police

Yeah, OP, waste police time by lying about a crime that didn't happen Hmm

notanotherNC · 09/09/2017 21:33

Is this for real? Do people actually do this?

Doramaybe · 09/09/2017 21:34

A bit cheeky! Some people have no boundaries at all.

I'd wait until they are gone out and your kids are home from school (dry weather obv), and put a blanket on their garden and have a little picnic there.

Wait until they get back. Ta da.....

EyesUnderARock · 09/09/2017 21:36

Only naice people with wine and lovely children who need to play in a safe space uncontaminated by common people. Round here, you would get your arse kicked if you were as bad mannered as the OP's neighbours.

VeryCunningStunt · 09/09/2017 21:37

Do people actually do this?

Not in my universe, but on MN if they're not using your garden they're parking on your drive or dumping their kids every other day

WhereYouLeftIt · 09/09/2017 21:38

Apologising to them was pretty natural while you were in shock, but I think you need to reel it back in or they're likely to treat you like a doormat in future.

I'd suggest you have a quiet private word with the wife, explaining you didn't want to embarrass her in front of her children and parents, but you are not happy about them treating your garden as if it's their own and you don't want ANYTHING of that nature to happen again, because you will not be so discreet should that be the case.

And of course, fit a HUGE fuck-off lock!

eddielizzard · 09/09/2017 21:39
Shock
Slimthistime · 09/09/2017 21:39

I don't have a hot temper but this would give me so much rage, my problematic low blood pressure would probably skyrocket to an alarming level.

I'd actually take all my friends round to their garden with beer and fags tomorrow. Leave the cans and fag ends. And I don't even smoke or drink beer.

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