To go to a salsa party?

[MrsMuddlePluck]

DH has actually looked up 'why people go to salsa parties ' on Google! He seems to think im going to get chatted up & that these parties are an excuse for sexy dancing. I'm no sexy dancer btw!

My boss (who is also a long term acquaintance) asked me if I'd like to go with her some time ago & it's been in the diary for a while.

There's a beginner's class for an hour or so & then lots of dancing. That's it. I honestly hadn't given it much thought apart from sounding like fun.

He works away all week and insists on my being here all weekend even though he sleeps for most of it while I catch up with housework. I work ft too.

We are together all day tomorrow watching our son in an athletics event so it's not as if I'm out all weekend.

Is he BU ?

I went to one, as a date admittedly, but there were plenty of people there to shock horror learn something new and socialise.

You have more problems than just a salsa party disagreement.

Is he being a clueless tit who thinks the party is a euphemism for an orgy, or is he genuinely accusing you of seeking an affair and insisting you remain home spending your weekends supervising his sleeping form to ensure you don't 'cheat'?

Sounds like he's being a controlling nobhead. I had a boyfriend once who tried to tell me what to do. I laughed in his face, dumped him and used "... and then he informed me I was 'not allowed to go'!" as an amusing anecdote amongst mutual friends until he left the country. Like, srsly, it's THAT much of a dealbreaker.

It's a dance class! Tell him to fuck off.

I don't think the salsa party is your main problem here.

He insists you stay home all weekend, whilst he sleeps and you clean? Did I read that correctly?

You have a huge husband problem. HUGE. How can you live like this?