to disagree with DH over DCh sharing room on holiday?

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We have twins, a DS and a DD. They are 13. They have their own rooms at home, but when booking a holiday flat, DH said they ought to have their own rooms, which means a 3-bed which can take six ppl, rather than a 2-bed for four. It will cost about £130 more, which would pay for carhire, & I resent that.

They always share at ILs, no prob, but DH thinks they're getting 'to old'. He said this in front of them and of course they agree, but otherwise it wouldn't have occurred to them. What do you think?

You are going to have very few enjoyable family holidays left

So I would make them holidays that they enjoy too - let them decide

i don't think having a period is a problem, I mean she's hardly going to be needing to walk around semi naked in front of him in their room is she???

I think there is nothing wrong with getting them to share a room. they're going to be in there to sleep, nothing more so what does it matter?

I'd put them in the same room and spend the £130 on something else.

I would book myself my own room. Dh snores like a fecker.

£130 is a lot to me, I'm a SAHM & haven't had much income since they were born. DH is on a fairly low wage. It goes against the grain to pay for something I don't have to when we could 'make do'.

As for asking them.. as I said, it would've been normal for them to share if DH hadn't said, and they did this time last year.

What I want to know is, is it normal for DCh of 13 to share? Twins? Not a dbl bed, obviously, that would cause ructions. DD wraps herself up in the duvet. Last time I shared with her I spent all night trying to grab a corner of it.

dd and ds share when we go on holiday. ds is 15 now and dd will be 12. They like it. It is only for a week.

again MP talks the most sense
and the camping thing - I never go camping, camping is not my idea of a holiday, each to thier own but when I go on holiday I want to go in comfort. The period thing would be waking up in the middle of the night to blood stained sheets, not inserting tampnons in front of each other. i was very unpredictable at that age with leakages. But as MP says, have you asked them????

ah crossed posts. Well lie I said if you can't afford it I would have them share

yeah but still, she doesn't have to show him. just mention it to her mum and they can discreetly change it.

I honestly would have no qualms about them sharing a room

anyway, she may not even have a period while they're away

tbh I owuldn't have thought o even ask if they would want separate rooms. I am lucky in that I have 2 dd's and as far as I am concerned, they share, full stop. However I still think they share, end of

let them decide

who knows WHY they might want privacy?

(any suggestions why a 13 year old might want some privacy, send them me on a postcard)

Camping is a great idea until you get there and begin by having a big argument about putting the tent up, then spending a freezing cold night on an uncomfortable damp groundsheet wondering where the sound of shotguns is coming from. Then theres the eerie sounds outside and the weird shadows. Its ok though, cos when you get up in the morning you can have a nice bracing shower in the freezing cold shower block with the spiders. I love it.

No, I'm not going to ask them! Enough that we go somewhere with 24hr pizza & endless trips to leisure centre for swimming to please them, and are able to indulge in only minimal country walks/sitting looking at nature/going round churches/museums/ancient sites/ birdwatching/canoodling/sightseeing pretty villages, and other adult activites, without asking them if we should spend £130 for no reason. If I asked them we'd be in a five-star hotel. I like Raven's suggestion of 'There's a budget', also Saggar, 2shoes, Scooby & everyone else who agrees with ME! Thanks for all your views - makes me realise that although there are points I hadn't thought of, I'm not being unreasonable.xx

lol, compo..thing is the op is wondering if that is £130 well spend and that those £130 could pay for other pleasures...therefore, my comment on people getting spoiled....if you can afofrd it then whatever...go and have 5 star holidays and be happy with yerself...do I look BOVVERED? ;)

Hairymclary you're right - thanks.

I wonder if i should ask my parents if they would like to swap their holiday for ours. we're staying in a caravan in devon for a week. They're off to Barbados, all inclusive, adults only

lol powder...somehow I doubt they will go for that swap...although...depends possible on your selling power...along the lines...serious quality time with your gorgeous grandkids...yaddayaddayadda, lol

Yes, I can work the old guilt trip on my mum, not so much on my dad. His response would be 'i dont think so'

I think your dh is being unreasonable.

Nothing wrong with sharing .

I would have shared with my 13 year old brother when I was 16 and not thought about it at all.

Your dh could always share with ds and you share with dd. That's what my mum's parents had to do as they had 5 kids and a 2 bedroom house.

Thanks. I suppose I don't know these things because I haven't got bros or sisters. And I could't share with DD - see post below - would drive me nuts! Not much of a holiday. (I do expect some you-know-what you know - it's a holiday!)

And as for camping, powder28, you forgot to mention the simple joy of eating charred chicken on your throwaway barbie whilst quaffing whatever Lambrusco the local Spar can offer, thinking 'This is OK', before realising that it's getting cold and dark, and everyone else has got electric hook-up and radio and a table to play cards round, while you're wondering if there's enough battery left in the torch to finish your chapter, before realising that you have still to wash up the greasy plates in cold water. You end up with the sleeping bag zip digging into your neck, and spend the night wondering how you can be so well-padded yet still ache everywhere, and finally drop off to sleep as dawn breaks, only to be awoken by someone's kisses and fetid breath - no, not DH this time but the DDog who had howled in the car and had to be let in, to perfume the tent. Ah, there's nothing like camping, is there? Like you, I love the Great Outdoors.

I wouldn't ask them - you're paying for it so you state terms and conditions.
£130 for the week..that could be a couple of meals out....a couple of meals not needing cooked. It's your holiday too.

I would have slit my wrists rather than have my brother sleeping in the same room as me. I started sleeping in a tent on my own when we went camping as a family because i refused point blank to share with my brother - and why the hell should I?

Yes, a period is only a period when you are 32 and have had 2 kids - when you are 13 and only just getting used to them, and the person you are sharing a room with is your 13 year old brother NO WAY.

And sorry to be awful, but what about the lad's privacy to have a wangle if he feels like it? He can't do it with his sister there! What if he has a wet dream?

I would never even consider putting 2 thirteen year olds of opposite sex in the same room, even if they did once share a room, they aren't babies any more, and they have a right to privacy levels they are comfortable with. It's nothing to do with being spoiled - I* gave up a warm bed in a caravan to sleep on the floor outside to get away from my brother, that's how strong the urge for privacy can be.

Agree with Colditz, I think it's not on to expect 13 year old girl and boy to share.