To think that's it's unreasonable to post an AIBU on MN and then argue about it

[Iwantamarshmallow]

I'll admit I'm a bit addicted to the AIBU thread. I can spend hours pouring over the posts . What I always find really odd is when an OP has asked other mumsnetters AIBU only to then disagree vehemently when they have been unanimously advised that they are in fact BU. I read one last week where the OP having been advised YABU replied a number of times to say that everyone was wrong. Some times OPs can get really quite snappy when other mumnetters giver their opinions. But what I don't understand is why you would post an AIBU if you refuse flatly to accept that you had been unreasonable? What's the point?

You don't think AIBU is for people who think they ABU...

It's a place to put the world to right.

People only post because they think they are right and want their opinion validated.

A lot of the tins they are poorly worded/missing elements so the OP has to continually add things to the thread that get lostvetc.

I know what you mean, OPs can't get all of their situation just in their OP though but when they explain their reasoning they're accused of drip feeding.

It's easy to think you're not being unreasonable (1st law of AIBU, never ask unless you're sure you are) only to come up against The Truth, and sometimes that's hard to swallow, especially if you're in a vulnerable place.

YABU, you can't expect OPs just to take it laying down where's the fun in that?

I think that you shouldn't be able to have your thread deleted when AIBU wipes the floor with you. The vague 'too much personal information' or 'too identifying' excuse to get your massive unreasonableness wiped from history is poor. You should just name change and hide the thread instead.

I think a lot of the posts are worded to ask AIBU, but the intention is a general post for traffic -like 'aibu to ask you for a pie recommendation'. Obviously the poster just wants to get their point across about pies (or other more heated issues), not to know if they're BU.

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' Obviously the poster just wants to get their point across about pies (or other more heated issues), not to know if they're BU.'

But there's nothing so disheartening as posting about your pies only to watch the thread sink into the _Chat swamp of other threads about other peoples pies.

I hate other peoples pies, they're dry, crusts are too thick, and they don't have enough gravy in

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If people told you are being unreasonable about your op, would you change your mind - or do you think that people are being unreasonable and you're going to stick to that opinion?

I really don't understand this attitude. Do people really think AIBU is a poll or a phone-in vote the OP is legally obliged to abide by?

Some people are told they're being unreasonable and, on closer inspection, start to think they may be. Others ask a question, are genuinely surprised by the answers and aren't convinced by the argument. And that's fine. You don't know if things might have been different if other viewpoints had been shared, people had responded less harshly etc.

On almost every one-sided thread (and on some with a very clear split) there's a post along the lines of:

'OP: AIBU?
Everyone: Yes.
OP: No I'm not!

Why ask? Gotta love MN! '

These posters seem to think this comment is up there with the works of Plato in terms of profoundness. Do they really think a more likely scenario was:

OP: AIBU?
Everyone: Yes.
OP: Oh, okay!

?

I fucking hate that comment cough. It's so unoriginal and often posted when there is still a little bit of debate going on, actually.

It's posted almost to silence any opposition, almost like 'mumsnet has spoken'.
I never see it in real time to jump in and argue it though always hours later.

They are the best AIBU though

Op, AIBU
Everyone Yes
OP now I'm not
Everyone Yes you are
OP you are horrible on mumsnet and I came here to be supported
Everyone your still unreasonable
OP I am off now, your all bitches

I think some people just can't accept they are in the wrong. Some people just don't like to hear the truth I guess

They think they are right and everyone will tell them so, so they post comfortable in this knowledge, then when it works out no one does agree ( apart from the usual few sycophants saying I agree with you op, it's not unreasonable to eat your young or whatever, mumsnet is for support ) they first of all try to drip feed to sway opinion then get really pissed off everyone still disagrees with them.

Then they turn to the sycophant and say "finally! Someone who understands, thank you!! I knew I was right".

Oh and " I'm never posting on mumsnet again"

Bizzare but common.

They can't just agree they're unreasonable in their second post though. That's not the rules. You do have to argue it for a couple of posts.

Just don't leave it too late because you need enough space on the thread to get 15 pages of people who haven't read the thread coming in and giving the OP a kicking.

I find the RL people ask for opinions. But don't want them. They want agreement. Its not surprising they do it here.

Although i have seen quite a few threads, recently, where the Op has realised they are being unreasonable. Which is refreshing.

Well some days and/or threads on AIBU go totally against the typical prevailing opinions so that can be weird. I find weekends are very different to weekdays.

Also it is interesting to see what other people think, but it isn't legally binding that you must henceforth totally submit to the opinions of a random selection of strangers!!

"Some people just don't like to hear the truth I guess"

Your phone is fucking with your spelling. Welcome to my hell (new phone)