Aibu to suspect he's trying to pull a fast one (CMS related)

[Daisym0use]

Not sure if this is in the right thread but wondered if anyone else has had experience of this.
Exh pays maintenance through the csa and is also paying a family based arrangement for 2 other children as though they were not living together but I know they are! The cms say my dc would be entitled to more if he were paying as though he lived with them. Aibu to think he might be pulling a fast one or is there a logical explanation?

Do you mean he claims he is paying maintenance for 3 children in total when in fact it is only for 1 to reduce the amount?

Do you mean he would have to pay your son more if he admitted he lived with the other two children and he is making out he pays 3 lots of maintenance? If he is lying then yes he is pulling a fast one. You don't pay maintenance on children you live with.

I knew I'd explain it really badly! I have 2dc with him. He's got 2dc to another woman but says he doesn't live with them even though I'm pretty sure he does! The cms said he'd have to pay me more if he lived with them. I suspect there's some tax credit fiddling going on as well.

"even though I'm pretty sure he does! "

Are you sure, or not? It's not worth getting upset about if you aren't.

One day he'll have to explain it to his children and it will change their opinion of him.

Put everything in writing to CMS. Because if you find proof later, that he is living with them, you can complain to the Independent Case Examiner, that you alerted CMS to the situation, and they did not do anything. Always safer, if you have done that by letter, because half the time, they "forget" to log phone calls.

Birds that's exactly how I feel. I'm not so bothered about the money (even though it would come in very useful) it's how much effort he's put into depriving them of a few pounds. I'm surprised at myself but I feel really disappointed for them even though I've know for years what a twat he is

Thanks Husky, the lady I spoke to at the cms was really nice but if doesn't sound as though they have time to investigate these things. I'll log it anyway but I'm sure he'll get away with it.

He'll get away with it, from a legal POV.

But we've all got to live with our actions and in our own Head. There's many people who struggle with being challenged by their Adult children and end up sad and alone.

If he did live with another 2 dc the payment to you would be reduced as they will be classed as dependants. If he isn't living with them she would likely also be claiming so also reducing your payments. .

She is claiming boatmistress, the cms said if they were classed as living with him he would have to pay me more. He pays less as he is classed as supporting 2 families he doesn't live with. It's all a bit confusing!