Can't ask in real life Aibu?

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I've lurked here for a while and hav decided to post as this is just a question I can't ask in RL so wondering if some wise mumsnetters can assist.
My DS is two years old.
Ever since his delivery which was a normal vaginal, I have had a spongy bit on my front (anterior?) wall. Doesn't protrude from the opening but is visible.
Anyways what I have been told by physio and gp is that after having a child a small amount of prolapse is considered normal and my PF is strong. I tend to find if I keep up with my PFEs then it is pretty symptomless.
So AIBU to think that this is a fob off by hcps? Or is it true that once you have delivered a baby that this is a normal variation.
I also want to have another child. Would I have to accept that this would worsen or does anyone have experience of a second pregnancy where prolapse remained unchanged?

Cherries and member I know what you mean mine only came a few weeks after when stitches had all healed and all swelling settled then it became apparent.
After a ton of pelvic floors it has got better and if I do them every day I'm generally not symptomatic.
However I got really really down when first discovered it. If it would get worse after a second baby I don't think I would want to risk my mental health again it wouldn't be fair to risk that for my ds so this is my worry. I so want another child to complete my family but if I knew the prolapse or laxity or whatever it is would be worse then I would have to stick with one dc. He is a total blessing and my world but I can't help feeling I want another child. I just don't want to risk a worse prolapse.
Cherry I'm no professional but my guess is that if yours was going to get worse it would have done by now but if all is staying the same/holding up with the weight of the baby then this is good news

My prolapse wasn't effected by my second child.. both assisted vaginal deliveries. If anything I would say it improved after the second but that might be because I was much better at my physio.

Apple I've just seen your reply. Get yourself along to the gp who will check and refer for physio if necessary. I'm not sure about your situation but if it's symptomless I wouldn't worry too much as long as you are doing your Pfe. I'm only worried as I'm thinking about another baby.
Honestly I'm wondering if there's anyone who has given birth vaginally who CANT see a bit of vaginal wall if they squat over a mirror?
Katie thanks that's really good to know.

I was really down when it happened me too . I spent a lotof time crying iwent to out of hours doc at one stage because I couldn't stop crying and my husband thought I could b getting pnd from the situation . She set my mind at ease . I came home feeling so much better . When I eventually got to see physio she said I would be fine to have another child . I have no plans to have one but it was a comfort all the same

Me too...I discovered it once healing had happened, about six weeks after birth and thought it was a prolapse (as in bowel or something bulging in) got really scared and down and couldn't stop crying. Glad to know it wasn't just me! My physio said she can't feel it now I've done loads of pelvic floor exercises and I had assumed it wouldn't get worse with another baby but maybe that's naive! My mum says it's never the same again down there but that she didn't have any actual problems. Maybe see what physio says about having another?

I am not trying to be goady but if it's symptom free and only visible if you squat over a mirror why does it bother you?

I've never squated over a mirror so I've no idea. But I use a mooncup with no issues so that's good enough for me.

Not goady at all muse fair question really.
At first it was symptomatic I could feel it stress incontinence etc etc (hence why I looked in first instance ) and when first diagnosed I was so upset if you google prolapse it throws up some pretty scary stuff that people have to live with in terms of incontinence, not excercising, not lifting, painful sex etc and I get the impression it's dismissed as 'women's problems' by some hcps.
Anyway it has improved but I'm scared of worsening symptoms if I were to have another baby.
I couldn't give two hoots what my lady bits look like I fully accept that after childbirth nothing looks the same that's life. It's symptoms that concern me nothing cosmetic.
So I just wonder if all woman after vaginal delivery have a degree of prolapse. I wonder if for most does the damage get done first time and degree of laxity/prolapse/symptoms stay the same.
Kiwi I may well go back to physio.
Member glad you feel better about things now.
I suspect a lot of women have these worries but no one in real life talks about it.

No my prolapse isn't that bad, I didn't even know I had one until I had an X-ray, did you have a bad tear last time? I had a 3b tear. I too have a bit of extra skin down there looks awful but it's not like anybody stares at ones 'bits' is it so doesn't really bother me. The midwife told me at my first appointment that I was under consult care and was likely to have a section because of making a prolapse worse.

Mumma - no it was classed as second degree but I had tears going up and down and stitches in three areas.
I would have a c section if they recommended and thought it would prevent worsening prolapse but my tear wasn't as bad as yours don't know if they would do this for me. I don't think a c section be an easy option but certainly preferable to worsening prolapse symptoms.
I'm pleased to hear your prolapse isn't a bad one it must have been enough for you recovering with a 3b tear.
Best of luck for your delivery and new baby.