To tell my friend she is over reacting?

[Sienna333]

She has a nanny who works after school. Her DD told her "Nanny said wow, there is no-one here for once." When she walked through the door. This is because nanny arrives to the house and either my friend, friends husband or their stepdaughter is there meaning the nanny doesn't have to stay.
She said she doesn't appreciate nannys sarcasm. I told her she was bu. Would I be right?

Does she not pay the nanny in those instances? Or does she not actually need the nanny? Otherwise I'm not actually sure what's going on

If they nanny is essentially getting no employment ( 0 contracts style) then I'd be making comments too. Your friend is being a prissy twat

What so the nanny is having to go early regularly without being paid? There would be more than sarcastic comments from me!

Are you saying that the nanny is expected to turn up and leave if someone else is there, does she still get paid if that's the case?

And your friend is being a twat.

Sounds that way, friend was a bit evasive.

She complained about her nanny cancelling an afternoon the other month, can't say I blame her as it seems friend does it a lot herself or sends nanny home early way more then is right/fair.

I don't understand why the even have a nanny?

So, the nanny just has to pick her up and take her home, then gets told to leave (presumably without being paid her contracted hours?) Christ I'd be a LOT more than sarcastic!

It's not necessarily even a sarcastic comment, it could be an observation. If she's not getting paid if someone else is there, that's terrible.

From what friend said, they do pay but I am not sure that's truth and whether it is full amount. I said I would be annoyed even if she were paying me full amount but sending me home straight away. She just doesn't seem to get it.

Crikey she's a lucky woman if that's all the nanny does that grates. Sounds like she's looking for any excuse to sack her.

In that case, yes, your friend sounds like an entitled arse

Ask your friend what she would do if she turned up to work and her boss sent her away saying they didn't need her?

I did say that and she just said "Well, she gets paid."
I used to work in childcare (As a childcare rep abroad and playschool worker) so it riled me up when she expressed such negativity.

Your friend is a dickhead.

I used to let our nanny go early if I had an early finish, always paid her until 6 though

Your friend is a jerk if she regularly sends the nanny home early and doesn't pay her for the time that was scheduled.

I suspect she will have trouble holding on to a good nanny if she keeps that up. She should take the comment as an early warning sign of a nanny who is going to find a better job soon

I don't understand why she would ever care at all about that comment. It sounds as though it's unusual for nobody to be there, and she remarked on the unusual situation. I can't even dream up a reason that would be negative or inappropriate.

If there were never any post, say, and I came in one day to find letters laying about, I'd comment "oh wow, there's post for once" and mean nothing by it other than just what I'd said. Her comment seems to me about as nefarious as that. Am I missing something?

I'm wondering why she has a nanny if the nanny is so rarely needed. We have an afternoon/early evening nanny twice a week and its expensive!
Your friend would be better off getting a sitter from sitters.com when she does need someone.

Just sounds like a throwaway comment on something being unusual to be. Overreaction, unless the nanny has a good reason to be sarcastic & generally pissed off with the situation.

Don't much like the sound of the DD "telling" on the nanny, tbh. It's an odd thing for a child to report back!