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To think you can be an outgoing, extroverted person and still suffer from anxiety?

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hellohellogoodbye · 07/09/2017 19:46

I've suffered occasionally from severe anxiety and OCD since I was very young.

As I'm 40 now and used to managing it more (it's often hand in hand with terrible pms so know sometimes when to expect it) I have a better handle on it. But I still sometimes suffer from it badly at times.

But, I'm also a fairly extroverted person. I like having lots of friends. I love throwing parties. I love going out a lot, both with dh and ds and alone.

I've learned over the years though that when I'm suffering from a bout of anxiety, bad pms or OCD (or a lovely combination) that I'm just better off alone. I've realised I can come across as edgy and weird and more often than not end up upsetting someone or ending up with them thinking I'm really off key.

So now I recognise what's going on I'll stay home.

Both my Mum, mil and a couple of friends have said that it's not possible for someone who suffers from the aforementioned to be extroverted and a social person. It's just me making things up to get out of doing something I don't want to.

This isn't true at all! 9 times out of 10 I'm gutted I'm missing out and sit at home with massive fomo.

It especially hurts that my Mum doesn't take my mental health seriously. I feel like I've battled really hard to overcome these things and when they do (as I said less rarely these days) feel anxious I keep out of people's way so as not to impact on them or their opinions of me.

But as over the years there's been probably 6 or so people that have said it's not possible to suffer these conditions and then be outgoing at other times I'm starting to question myself!

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hellohellogoodbye · 08/09/2017 00:54

It's always most worse being outgoing most of the time. It means people really don't get it when you need to call off on an engagement.

I'm over making excuses. I used to say "bad period", "food poisoning", whatever came to mind. Now I usually tell people I'm having a day where I'm better alone, I figure if they're going to judge me on that then in the long run it won't work out between us anyway.

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SomeOtherFuckers · 08/09/2017 01:02

Well if it's not possible then my whole extroverted, flamboyant, devil-may-care personality with its side of omg I've ruined my whole life, they all hate me, I'm shit is a complete fantasy of the mind ...

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