To have low contact with my mum?

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I feel all of a sudden that I perhaps need to cut contact with my mum. Not completely but I feel she's unhealthy for me. She ignores me when I go round really and gas long phone conversations with various friends she has. She tells her friends stories about me that are embarrassing or personal and it makes me squirm. She doesn't show much interest in my dc or offer to help (I know she doesn't have to) and I do struggle as a single parent.
I can't explain it properly but when i am upset, she dismisses me, or says I am bringing her down.

Just bumping

Do you think you and your children would be happier with low contact? If yes do it.

I don't know. I'm lonely. But she is obsessed with her looks, has had a lot of work done and has made me feel insecure and paranoid. She's very critical and if I try to talk to her about anything just ignores me and talks about herself.

It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

It is hard when you are lonely but if you feel worse when you spend time with her then it's not helpful for your emotional well being .

I personally would work on my own loneliness are there groups or hobbies that you could do that fit around your children?