To not want to keep being reminded I have a big bum!

[takeitback]

Ok, so I've always had a big arse. I've always had average size boobs, small waist, slightly curvy hips but a big butt!

I've spent many years trying to hide it with the clothes I wear but my DP tells me I'm crazy (he loves my big bum)

He is constantly telling me to stop hiding it with cardigans, long tops etc but I don't feel comfortable with it.

For the first 3 years of our relationship he would buy me skin tight clothes, he eventually realised it was a waste of money because I wouldn't wear them out.

Now I know that my DP loves my body and I am comfortable wearing leggings, tight fitted pjs etc around the house with him there and he will often make comments like 'hello sexy' 'look at that ass' so am I being unreasonable to not feel the same way about it and dislike it

Do it to him.

Look at that bulge.

Only stop once he's so self conscious that he enters rooms backwards.

You're asking two different questions.

YANBU to not want to keep being reminded you have a big bum as that would get quite tedious.

You can't really be reasonable or unreasonable to dislike your bum. You just feel how you feel.

Depends.
Are we talking about a Big Bum (as in shapely, sticky outty, Beyonce/Kylie) type bum.
Or are we talking
Big Fat Arse.

If it's a big, wide, sticky out fat arse, from being overweight which I have then you probably try to hide it, like I do. Nothing makes clothes look worse. That and over big boobs.

However if you have a really shapely 'big bum' it's not so bad. Get it out there!

But you should do what you feel is right.

Yep. Depends, is it a Kardashian bum or a massive flat tyre style get up with a kind of billowing in the wind aspect to it?

Itching please stop describing my arse

I think we need a diagram of your arse

My bum is not what it used to be and I've definitely moved up a size in jeans but my DP loves it and always goes on about my lovely big bum. At least he likes it, and is not calling me fat arse which is what my df used to call my mum and sister god bless him

Is it a firm bum or a flabby bum? Firm bums, no matter their size, should be displayed in the tightest clothes possible. YABVU of being ashamed of it.

As my sister said to me "you have the incredibly unique gift of having both a thigh gap and a nice round arse".

On the down side all of my weight goes to my tummy 😣 I hate it. Its not huge by normal standards but its flabby and because the rest of me is so slim it looks really weird. Im trying to get rid of it but am scared will lose arse and my minimal boobage in the process.

Anyway enough about me, back to takeitback's mahoosive derriere!

Tabby to ask him to stop as it is upsetting you.

I was once walking down the street when the homeless veteran guy with no legs who begs outside 7-11 beckoned me over. "Can I tell you something and you won't take offense?" He asked. I was perplexed as to how I should respond, because nobody ever says that without following it up with something offensive. I sort of shrugged. "You have a majestic ass!" He said.
Majestic???! Now I am constantly expecting people to smash bottles of champagne off my QE2 sized butt.

YANBU. I don't get why anyone would let their partner buy clothes for them, you buy clothes that make you feel good. Don't listen to him, this isn't about him, this is about you. Tell him he needs to stop going on about it.

This thread has made me laugh.

As my sister said to me "you have the incredibly unique gift of having both a thigh gap and a nice round arse".

Yes, if it's a nice round arse, show it off! Don't hide it.

If it's a massive, messy, wobbling mountain of fat arse, that looks like two pigs fighting under a blanket.
Well you best Cover It Up