To avoid calling my mum these days?

[OverTheHammer]

Long and boring history but basically my mum remarried when I was 11 (to an arsehole) and they had another kid. It was made very clear from this point on that I was in the way.

Roll on 23 years and my step sister is now ridiculous overindulged and hopeless at independence. She's never had a job and has spent the past few years half arsed looking for work.

Whenever I call my mum she drones on and on about my sister - the job hunting - her diet - her flat - her lack of exercise - I've listened and tried to help numerous times but now I'm bored of it.

An example of me ringing my mum:

Me: "hi"
Mum: "oh hi, how is everyone?"
Me: "oh they're ok ... DS is starting university in September ... "
Mum: "oh, your sister has still not found a job, she went for an interview on Wednesday (drones on for 30 minutes about every detail in said interview". She has another interview on Friday (drones on for 30 minutes about upcoming interviews) oh and she never heard back from that interview she had last week (drones on for 30 minutes about past interviews) ...
Me: "DS2 got his GCSE results today ... "
Mum: "you don't seem interested in your sister?"
Me: "I am but the situation hasn't changed since the last time we spoke"
Mum: "yes I know, she's finds it all so difficult ... (starts to drone on about her difficulties)
Me: "did I tell you DSs GCSE results?"
Mum: "oh yeah, what did he get?"
Me: "well he got a B in photography ..."
Mum: "oh your sister got a couple of Bs!! English was one ... and I think the other one was history! (She didn't, her highest grade was an E) .. see this is what I mean! She's intelligent and just doesn't seem to get anywhere! (Starts to drone on about her interviews again ... )

I don't care anymore!! I don't want to hear it! Nobody gave a shit when I was having difficulties! AIBU to just limit contact right down?

It's annoying isn't it.

My Mum lives abroad and if I call her to tell her my kids' news she tells me all about my nephew (who lives over there but who I am friends on FB with so already know his news!)

I have cut down the number of calls and am surprised how often it was me calling her as the telephone doesn't appear to working from her to me anymore!!

Just don't call for a few weeks and see if she calls.

I can sympathise OP; my situation wasn't completely comparable but some similarities. My dad met a new partner when I was 16 and left me to it It really was as if I, my brother and later my DS - his only grandchild - didn't exist.

It's rubbish and so bloody selfish.

Fuck's sake. You're a saint putting up with that.

Of course you're not unreasonable. Your dm is obviously completely enmeshed with your sister and her lack of independence. Just congratulate yourself on having a life that means you can do your own thing. It hurts though.

She's your half sister, not your step sister.

If you don't like them just cut them off.

Just be honest & let your mum know that the world doesn't revolve around your sister & you would like her to take more of an interest in you & your DC when you ring to speak to her. Maybe she doesn't realise she's doing it.

My mum does this with me, have 5 seconds of telling her something before she starts telling me bout my brother's latest issues. I have him on FB, so I know more about what he's up to the her. It's so frustrating.

What 2nd time suggested

God what a drain OP try that and then cut down and see if she realises

Some people