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Original poster

To want the neighbours to shut their front door?

37 replies

NapQueen · 07/09/2017 17:46

I live ground floor and they live upstairs. One main door to the building, small vestebule type thingy with both of our doors. 99% of the time I leave or come home their front door is open.

Because of how small the entrance way is, it feels like Im just stood at the bottom of their stairs.

Its starting to feel like im passing through their space to get in and out of my own flat. They usually leave their shoes in the entrance too as theyve recarpeted, sk theres always a few pairs of trainers and flip flops lying around. She stacks her up at the side, but his are just anywhere he effing leaves them.

Aibu to just shut their door?

OP posts:
WunWun · 07/09/2017 17:50

Are the shoes on the ground floor?

idontwannaneedthem · 07/09/2017 17:51

YANBU it's trampy

Original poster
NapQueen · 07/09/2017 17:52

Yep in the communal entrance. Not inside their doorway.

OP posts:
QuiteLikely5 · 07/09/2017 17:52

That would be weird! You need to focus on other things. Do not let this tiny issue become something it isn't

Original poster
NapQueen · 07/09/2017 17:53

I worry because if our cat dashes out it could end up up their stairs. Also, if Im bring the kids in and out im conscious of the noise travelling.

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Barbiessharptoenails · 07/09/2017 17:54

If the noise travels, that's their issue. They can shut their door if they don't like it.

The shoes would annoy me though.

tangledup123 · 07/09/2017 17:54

You can't shut their front door, it's not like they're leaving a communal door open.

But they shouldn't be leaving their shoes in a communal entrance hall, so I would ask them to remove them.

DeadGood · 07/09/2017 17:56

It's weird, but you are doing that thing where you are making your own insecurities their problem. They clearly don't give a shit if you make noise in the hallway with your kids. If it does bother them, maybe they will start closing the door. Win/win, yes?
The shoes thing is irritating though, I agree.

OpalMoon · 07/09/2017 17:58

YANBU I'd be very tempted to take random shoes and bin them hide them outside.

Kit30 · 07/09/2017 17:58

Can you ask them to move the shoes as a 'visitor' tripped on them?

Original poster
NapQueen · 07/09/2017 17:59

It just makes the space feel like theirs rather than communal.

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Allthebestnamesareused · 07/09/2017 17:59

I'd encourage your cat to poop in their shoes Grin. Be as noisy as you want - they can shut their door if they don't like it.

DeadGood · 07/09/2017 18:00

But... how? That's all in the mind. It isn't theirs - you know that and they know that.
Is the door wide open?

Allthebestnamesareused · 07/09/2017 18:00

Move their shoes onto the stairs (that you don't have to go up) so they are in their way rather than yours.

Original poster
NapQueen · 07/09/2017 18:00

Yep opened back to the wall. Yep I know its in my head. It is a bit daft I know. It just a bit annoying.

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MrMessy · 07/09/2017 18:01

So if their front door is open can you not just shove the shoes inside their door?

Birdsgottafly · 07/09/2017 18:04

Are they going in and out to smoke etc?

Many people would be bothered by the constant noise of the closing of the door.

Your issue is coming from how you feel, which in regards to it being their space, is ridiculous.

Stop worrying about noise during day/early evening time, it's expected.

tangledup123 · 07/09/2017 18:06

Tell them the shoes are a potential trip hazard in case of a fire evacuation (I live in a flat and we're not allowed to leave things outside our front door for that reason). But they're within their right to leave their front door open, so I'd try not to get annoyed by that.

CrochetBelle · 07/09/2017 18:07

They carpeted the communal stairs?

DeadGood · 07/09/2017 18:09

I hear you OP. Sometimes these little things get to you. It's also nice to have a little privacy until you are actually outside the building. Maybe the "noise in the hallway" thing is not so much that you're worried about disturbing them, but also that you don't want to be heard so clearly?
I personally find the "getting out the door" times to be quite stressful and I was often speaking to the kids somewhat brusquely. Didn't particularly want to be overheard.

PuffinNose · 07/09/2017 18:13

Meh. Bigger things to stress over.
Don't worry about the noise (unless it is excessive). If it bothers them, they'll close their door.
I'd maybe tell them nicely that you tripped over his shoe the other day and ask them to store them neatly.

PuffinNose · 07/09/2017 18:15

Actually, following on from Tangledup post about the shoes being a trip hazard during an evacuation, it is a fire door they keep open?

Ttbb · 07/09/2017 18:16

Who dies that? What weirdos! Just ask them to keep their shoes inside as it is dangerous. If they don't then cmplain. Not much you can do about the door though.

happypoobum · 07/09/2017 18:16

The shoes would annoy me as it's like they are appropriating the space as theirs.

I would ensure the shoes had little accidents/disappearances.

If they insist on leaving their door open I don't think there is much you can do about it.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 07/09/2017 18:20

I would just toss their shoes inside their open door

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