For Feeling Guilty About Blocking A Friend

[zukiecat]

I have been friends with this woman for quite a number of years, and until now never had any kind of issue with her.

I've posted before about this, but the situation is that DD2 is very unwell mentally for the past few months, we've had 8 hospital admissions since the middle of June, DD2 is finally getting the help she needs and things do seem to be improving, though it will be a long process.

I have no family support, but a work colleague has become a good fried through all this. She isn't the friend I have a problem with.

So that's the back story. My problem is that the other friend, I'll call her G to make it a bit easier, just will not stop texting or calling me. She can start at 9am, and she's still texting me at 9pm, this is every single day. If I don't answer within 20 minutes or so she's texting back with heaps of questions about why haven't I answered, where am I, what am I doing. If I say I'm busy and can't talk she gets offended, I work shifts and always on my teabreak I have about 10 texts asking why haven't I answered, I say I'm working til 10pm, then there's another load of texts at 10pm.

I just don't have the headspace or energy for all this, most of the texts are about her, and who she has fallen out with that week.

I blocked her number, but then she started with WhatsApp, with passive aggressive statements such as "Seeing as my texts are not getting through I'm WhatsApping to ensure you get them"

So now I've totally blocked her from contacting me at all, I'm just so tired of all these texts and messages every singe day without fail, but a part of me feels guilty because we have been good friends in the past,

I just want a day without any texts, but AIBU about this?

Sorry this was longer than I intended it to be, thanks for reading though

She's hard work, and not a good friend, you explained you needed space, she disrespected that, knowing what you are going through with your dd. Totally fine.

Glad to hear that she is unlikely to call round. Best of luck to you

Remove her from your wattsapp account. If she continues to harrass you tell her you will report her.

Zukie glad you are feeling better.

I don't have anything like your stress going on in my life but I wouldn't put up with someone texting me multiple times a day and demanding an answer. It's terribly invasive!

Don't feel bad OP, I had to do the same recently with a mum from nursery. She was relentless, beginning at 6am and continuing til all hours despite me asking her repeatedly not to as my mum was dying and I couldn't switch my phone off in case I got an urgent call. She didn't stop, in fact she got all arsey about it so I blocked her on everything and when she queried it I told her I'd blocked her as she wasn't respecting the boundaries I'd asked her to keep to, and for the sake of my mental health I was putting a stop to it. Funnily enough she leaves me alone now!

zukiecat as others have said, do not feel guilty. Do not give her your head space. You need it for your dd.

Your friend is being very selfish, she has been told and she is not supporting you, only wanting to dump on you her own minor issues.

Do not give her any more thought. It is sad she was not able to be there for you, and the loss of friendship is down to her.

I hope all will be well with DD.

I have an 'emotional vampire' of an ex dil. She doesn't txt every day thank goodness but when we do it's crazy .

granddaughter said it's because her phone keeps sending txts before the conversation is finished. So we blame the phone!!!

Thank you everyone

I feel much better now, and not so bad about totally blocking her

Today has been peaceful, knowing she can't contact me in any way