To ask not to spray perfume whilst eating?

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Was sat in a cafe yesterday enjoying a well earned coffee, when a woman behind me started spraying her perfume...she pretty much emptied the bottle...it really got to the back of my throat and I started coughing along with the cafe assistant and a family on the other table she got a from the family...when she got up to leave she started spraying again cue a coughing fit from the child with the family opposite.

I work in a small sized office there's 12 of us but there's one woman who wears really strong perfume that pretty much makes your eyes water...it's been giving me and a few others headaches (no windows in our office) so we spoke to the boss...this woman hasn't taken a blind bit of notice so I come home most days with headaches...and just now on the train a woman again spraying a tonne of perfume/deodorant stuff...the conductor has finally asked her to stop as so many people in the carriage are coughing...AIBU to think that people should have more consideration?

YANBU and that is from a perfumista.
Perfume should be a fairly private thing, spray to your hearts content in your own bathroom, but not in a public confined space. I spray on my tummy and can stick my nose down my cleavage anytime I want a hit. I don't expect many other people to stick their noses down my cleavage.
Work colleagues and strangers should just get a tiny hint that I smell gorgeous.
Deodorants are even worse, they dry out the inside of your nose and throat.

I honestly thought I was being unreasonable...so many people do it...I usually spray at home for a night out but would never take it out with me...I don't put perfume on for work I just use a roll on and to me that's scented enough. I don't usually mind perfume but the ones I smell recently smell of really strong musk I think my colleague wears something mugler and I find it gives me massive headaches.

You're not being unreasonable op. Anything scented (spraying perfume, painting nails) shouldn't be done around people that are eating. Especially in a cafe or restaurant.

No YANBU, but a lot of people who don't suffer from perfume related health issues are probably just thoughtless rather than being deliberately nasty or rude. And they won't know unless you say something! I'd just say 'excuse me, sorry to be a pain but I have asthma and perfume irritates it, would you be able to do that outside please?' and only a complete dick would have issue with that. If someone said that to me i'd apologise and stop immediately.

If you're getting headaches and it's that strong at work you need to persist. Go back to the boss. It's not good enough that she's just ignoring it. And if nothing happens then, go to the person above your boss. It's a health issue and you have the right to work somewhere that isn't causing you headaches.

I have a strong sensitivity to perfumes (they make me feel sick and dizzy when I have migraines), and my mum always used to douse herself in the stuff IN THE BLOODY CAR. Now I work with a man who seems to shower in Lynx every morning.

Even when I feel fine, it's just not pleasant. No one needs to be smelt in a three metre radius.

This is so horrible! YANBU

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You might find this book interesting.

I've had to go as fragrance free as I can. Clothes wash and conditioners, cleaning products, soaps, hair wash etc... it's not always about the 'strength' of the smell - just some smells set off crippling headaches.

Go back to your boss and ask him/her to reinforce the 'no spray/perfume' request. Ask about H&S policies - not overkill when people suffer from regular headaches, asthma etc...

Awful behaviour. I used to have a friend that would pop outside the back door for a fag and then come inside and full body spray herself with Impulse of all things! In my kitchen!

Really wtf is wrong with people

how disgusting!

at university those (of both sexes) who reeked of civet-cat arse were asked 'didn't you wash this morning?'

try that. Perfume should not be noticeable to anyone outside kissing distance.

Well I've finally left my suffocating office and got a throbbing headache because of the two different perfumes my colleague has sprayed and I've inhaled all day ...I'm reluctant to say anything as there's been a hive of bitching in our office lately and can't be bothered with the nastiness ...went out for fresh air and all I could smell and taste was the perfume...anyone know of any sprays what could neutralise perfumes?