To wonder when you got your mojo back after having DC

[fivefour3twoone]

I feel since ds was born like life's been on hold somehow, I'm only just starting to take more time on my appearance and very slowly feel like the fog is lifting...can't really explain what I mean, but what age were your dc when you felt like things returned to normal (ish) and you felt like you got your mojo back?

Still waiting at 18 months!!

My dc are 7 and 4 ...only just starting to take a bit more care of myself...hoping ds starting school next week will help move things along!

Mine are 4 & 6, getting there now!

I found it very tough after DC1. Not helped by the idea that I should have it altogether and look fabulous about 2 minutes after giving birth.

3 weeks to stop crying, 3 months to start feeling vaguely ok, 6 months to start feeling like I had a handle on things, 9 months to start enjoying my new life and find my new normal. Then I went back to work and it took a couple of months to readjust to that.

In terms of mojo though, really about 18 months after. Then I got pregnant with DC2 . Truly though in terms of appearance about 18 months after DC1 I started taking more care and investigated make up again. Hardly wore it pre-DC though so may have been much sooner if I did. Felt better again when DC2 was born.

I found a real difference when DC2 was 3 and I started getting a few hours a week to myself.

This may or may not have been what you wanted to hear!

I got mine back within 2 months, but I also really had to work at it. I would have sex with my husband even if I wasn't 100% into it because I believed, and I still do, that avoiding sex after children can be like a snowball effect where your lack of interest just keeps getting bigger the longer you avoid it. My sex life has always been really important to me so I wanted to get it back as soon as possible. Obviously, everyone is different and people have different circumstances or health issues, but that's what worked for me.

3 under 2.5 years was fucking hard. I wa so jay but there was zero time for me. And that was okay. But when I look back I don't know how I did it as I am really a very selfish self centred person. So now that DTs are off to school and I have only one child at home (whommostly sleeps through) it feels like there is starting to be space for me.

Youngest was 4. I noticed I didn't feel at all wistful when presented with friends new babies and the urge to run and be healthy got very strong. Feel much more my pre kids self than I have for years.

Still waiting and ds is 7 and dd nearly 2. I will be strongly advising dd not to ever have any children at all. She probably won't listen but it's only fair to warn her that it is fucking horrific.

DS is almost 17 months and in the last couple of months I feel like 'me' again :)

Maternity leave was spent in a typical new mum fog and then I went back to work for 4 months and it just felt like life was a super stressful treadmill. I handed in my notice and I'm going back to uni in a few weeks. I can't wait. It'll be lovely to have something for me again that isn't entirely baby related.

About age 3 or 4 with ds1. Still waiting with ds2 (2yo).

Thank god it's not just me. Mine are 5 and 2, I'm nowhere near mojo coming back. By 6pm I'm a miserable wreck pleading with my kids to go to bed so I can not be touched or talked to. I'm hopeful 6 and 3 we might get there?

i had an amazing night out when DD was 10 weeks old. I danced under the stars in a rooftop bar with my friends and it was amazing! short lived though...

when i went back to work and DD was 5 months - it was like a sea change. i was my old self again.

i really truly felt free and enjoyed her and was 'me' again when she hit 2.

now she's 4 and life is amazing - i could never have another one and risk this changing. she's fun, she's great company, she's easy, life is good and just like it was before - with her as a wonderful addition.

DSs are just turned 2 and 4. I've finally shifted the baby weight, started running 3x a week, libido is coming back and I'm trying to sort out my wardrobe. I'm also going out more and have the energy to see friends. I'm hoping things will come back more over the next few years but it feels nice to make a start!

Probably when each one was 6 months maybe, when the births/sections were a distant memory and I'd started getting my weight down, started feeling good about myself again, was out of the small baby clung to me all day phase, sleeping better.

I felt like I'd started to put my life back together at 3 months - working out what fitted and what didn't.

In reality it was prob 12 months when I went back to work, had lost the weight, started my career up again that I felt like me.