To feel a bit hurt at this?

[Sienna333]

Know I will probably (rightly) be flamed for this but would you be a bit hurt if your friend (Who you have done an awful lot for) didn't put a card with the gift they gave you for your birthday?

YABU It's a card, get over yourself

Not remotely no, you got a gift right? For me it's the thought that counts and the gift shows thought.

No, I don't really see the point of cards tbh. To me, it's a bit of folded paper with impersonal pre-printed words on that clutters up the mantelpiece for a week and then gets binned
I make sure I tell my friends that I love them and wish them a good day etc

No, cards wouldn't bother me. A present it is a bigger thing.

To me a card is a recognition that the person is thinking of you. A gift serves the same purpose so no real need for both.

Really? No.....

Nope...I wouldn't care.

No. It's only go in the recycling in a couple of days. A waste of paper for me.

So your friend got you a gift? And you're upset that there's no card? You need to get over that, you're being precious.

No, it's not like she forgot your birthday or didn't do anything nice for you. Yabu.

No, of no importance.

You're definitely being precious

YABU. She remembered and got you a gift.

Not sure what the issue is

I did think I was being oversensitive. Thanks for input

No, not hurt at all - and I am a card lover. I would give a card to many people I wouldn't give a gift to but if I was given a gift I wouldn't notice lack of card. I certainly wouldn't feel hurt, is there a particular reason you feel hurt not to have a card?

Happy Birthday

Seriously?

No. Any gesture is nice, at least it was a gift and no card rather than just a card. YABU.

YABVU and precious

You got a present, why does a card matter.

TBH the card-giving in the UK has gone crazy - it seems that there's a card for any and every occasion these days eg Valentine's cards from the dog, congratulations on your divorce etc

Cards annoy me, I think they are pointless with gifts!

My best friend didn't even get a card from me on her 40th. She did get a lovely gift. I always forget to get cards

YABU. She bought you a gift. Not everyone does cards. You're definitely being over-sensitive.

I never buy cards any more, but back when I did, I never gave them if I was also giving a gift. The card was sort of like saying "I didn't totally forget you, but you aren't getting a present".

I think it depends on the type of person you are.

In theory, we all love a gift! And (especially me) will take the gift over a card any day of the week. Cards are nice as a 'Thinking of you' but gifts, are gifts!

If you're a more sensative person, like my nan (67) my sister (27) or my niece (23) who really do prefer the card to the gift, the card gives meaning, they've thought about me, they've taken time to write this card out and drop it off/post it over to me. These words are lovely. etc etc

I only buy cards for these 3 as they've expressed to me many times about how much they love reading words on a card / receiving and displaying a card etc. I still buy gifts but I guess really a card is only an extra pound or two!

I don't bother with christmas cards/birthday cards otherwise. I too feel it's wasted paper, dust collecting for a week or 2 and then just extra recycling.

Meh. i'm with Zippy. It takes a great deal more time and effort (generally) to find a thoughtful gift. Cards are just more recycling.