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AIBU?

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To wonder why people are so aggressive?

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Edgeofthedesert · 06/09/2017 19:05

Parked up (permit only but after the cut off point) nothing to say I couldn't park on they part of the road.

Get out my car and I hear EXCUSE ME!!! CAN YOU GO AND PARK IN THE CAR PARK!!!??

Just some random woman in her car opposite screaming at me, it was so aggressive.

Firstly I didn't know there was a car park. There's no sign for it and I was only going to be parked up for 5 minutes (know she didn't know this but still.) Also unfortunately she doesn't own the road.

Ok someone does something you don't approve of, surely you can still be polite? Aibu?

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Fekko · 06/09/2017 19:06

I thought it was just me! People are unnecessarily aggressive these days. Maybe they were adding Prozac to the water supply and have stopped?

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Edgeofthedesert · 06/09/2017 19:09

must be it.

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stardust18 · 06/09/2017 19:11

It's sad isn't it but it's the world we live in now. I live near a little bridge only wide enough for one car so you have to give way. Almost every day I see somebody forcing a car to back off or shouting at each other. I just couldn't be bothered.

QueenMortificado · 06/09/2017 19:11

I find that aggressive voices make me feel really stressed. It happens all the time in my gym changing room - women talking loudly about some problem at work and not snapping AT each other but being really aggressive in the way they're telling the story if that makes sense?

Ditto people on the train on phones too. Often complaining about something to someone in such an aggressive tone.

Shuuuuuuush please!

AnneOtherNameosc · 06/09/2017 19:27

It's crazy right?

So many aggressive people these days. However there seems to be even more entitled people which means that someone making a simple mistake by parking in the wrong place is automatically branded as one of the "I'll park where I bloody well like and don't care if it affects you" people.

Lethaldrizzle · 06/09/2017 19:29

particularly on here! so many threads start off nice and calm and you skip to the end and they're all swearing at each other!

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 06/09/2017 19:29

People get insanely territorial over parking. Look at the MN threads where people "fume" over somebody parking on the street outside their house!

I hope you said, "No" and walked off.

Fekko · 06/09/2017 19:30

It's the whole mememe generation. Up their own backsides if you ask me. It's a default position now rather than a last resort. My mother always told me - don't start anything but of you do get into one, make sure you bloody well finish it!

zippydoodaar · 06/09/2017 19:36

Something similar....

Got stuck in a multi story car park. Woman in a Chelsea tractor (coming down a ramp to my left) was tooting me to move. I couldn't. We were all stuck in gridlock. She then got out of her car and knocked on my window. I wound it down and she started ranting about having a baby in the car who needed feeding and could I move so she could jump the queue. Err no.... because we are all stuck and you are not going to get past me in that fuck off car of yours. She then proceeded to scream at me. I wound the window up and turned the radio up.

The moral of this story is, leave the shops before your baby is on the verge of starvation just in case you get stuck in the car park, lady!

Caprianna · 06/09/2017 19:44

Yes so many aggressive people about. I find it really stressful to the point I will avoid certain areas. I especially notice it in South East London when I visit friends. Central london not too bad.

gandalf456 · 06/09/2017 19:46

Just look at her deadpan and say no then walk off

PodgeBod · 06/09/2017 20:21

Yes I thought it was just me! People just seem so angry and ready for a fight all of the time. It shocks me the petty vendettas people want to get in to.

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Edgeofthedesert · 06/09/2017 20:35

I just said, I'm literally going to be here for 2 minutes.

She seemed the type to start getting abusive if I dared gave attitude back.

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OuchBollocks · 06/09/2017 20:38

People have always been aggressive. I got punched in the face as a child for looking at someone in what they perceived to be the wrong way. One of the local teens tried to set fire to me. This was the 80s.

AnneBiscuit · 06/09/2017 21:36

Bloody hell Ouch, where did you live?

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Edgeofthedesert · 06/09/2017 21:46

Well I only parked up there because it was on the way home from work and I was considering moving to that street.

I guess if those would be my neighbours then it's put me off massively.

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friendlyflicka · 06/09/2017 21:59

I live in a small town and people in the last few years have got much more aggressive in cars. Suddenly acting like they are all in London (I don't think it is my driving!)

headinhands · 06/09/2017 22:03

What scares me are the people who hide their aggression under a veil of civility. I know someone who generally comes across all fluffy and giggly but when she's upset she's viscous.

zippydoodaar · 06/09/2017 23:17

viscous
ˈvɪskəs/
adjective
adjective: viscous

having a thick, sticky consistency between solid and liquid; having a high viscosity.
"viscous lava"

abbsisspartacus · 06/09/2017 23:22

Pretty sure she meant vicious

HaveAWeeNap · 06/09/2017 23:43

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QueenMortificado · 07/09/2017 07:08

haveaweenap the irony of having that reaction on this thread....!

deloresclaiborne · 07/09/2017 07:54

i find its when some ppl get behind the wheel of a car they change.
they go from being a nice calm civilised person to a bad tempered aggressive aresehole.
I mean, would you call someone a cunt cos they stepped out in front of you and then stopped and said sorry in a shop
do you huff and puff at someone in the street if they are in front of you and you want to get past
no but being behind a wheel of a car changes ppl

UsernameEnvy · 07/09/2017 08:13

i find its when some ppl get behind the wheel of a car they change.

Or a mobility scooter. Someone posted on my local area FB page yesterday that an old man in a mobility scooter purposefully tried to run over her puppy outside Tesco . He admitted it too, then loads of other people came on saying they'd almost been run over by him and he regularly speeds round the supermarket on it!

I had an incident recently where a woman driver drove right though a pedestrian crossing I'd just stepped onto with DS in a busy retail park almost knocking us over, I loudly said 'you've just drove through a pedestrian crossing ' (her windows were down), she stopped the car causing chaos and started screaming at me. I was furious but obviously couldn't retaliate as I had DS with me and shouting freaks him out so I just had to ignore and walk on.

Nikephorus · 07/09/2017 08:38

However there seems to be even more entitled people which means that someone making a simple mistake by parking in the wrong place is automatically branded as one of the "I'll park where I bloody well like and don't care if it affects you" people.
^^ This, and if you've had to endure several entitled people you're likely to snap at the one poor innocent sod.
I don't think it helps though that it seems impossible to get any sort of decent service from companies etc. these days unless you're aggressive. Once upon a time you'd get treated better if you were polite, now it seems like if you're polite you get walked all over & ignored so you have to resort to being a git.

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