DH ended our relationship last year before Christmas, but we got back together a few weeks later.
It's been great since then, until last week. I asked why his family hadn't visited in ages, he said that they 'really disliked me' and blamed me for last Christmas. He said that he agreed that I was a bully. I was shocked as at that time I'd been devastated. It was him who finished our relationship and over a silly argument. No discussion, just that was it, over.
I asked him why he thought that I was a bully. He cited that I'd been a 'maniac' texting him for 3 weeks last year after we split up. I did send upset texts, but so did he! I didn't resort to name calling. I haven't done it since.
He also says that it's up to him what he feeds the child for breakfast. And that I needed to 'fix myself'. It's not like I'm on his back all the time at all. In fact he has opinions about the kids too. I thought this was normal. But thinking back, whenever I have criticised that has provoked him to finish our relationship.
We went to counselling last year as it was becoming a cycle with him rejecting me, splitting up, but then him having second thoughts and getting back together. It's happened 4 times in our marriage. He also had an emotionally affair with a colleague 3 years ago, to the point of kissing. His family know about this.
I don't know what to do. It seems more and more isolating. He seems set on me being the bad guy here. It's no way to live and I think I want out but as most of the time we get on fine it seems such a waste. But again he seems to think that he's only with me 'for the kids'.