Should I just let it go?

[Bellini81]

My daughter is doing her duke of Edinburgh award through her school, she had the practice hike a few months ago and has the real deal this weekend, she has had to do other out of school activities for months and get a slip signed by the person overseeing the activities to prove she went etc.

They also all had to attend a meeting every single week after school for an hour (at least) without fail or they would be threatened to be chucked off the course.

Two girls in her group never turned up for the meetings, not even for 10 mins. My daughter assumed they wouldn't be allowed to do it (as one was bragging they had been chucked out) and then one of the girls was caught in school with alcohol on her and completely suspended and had to come into school to do end of year exams in solitary confinement.

My daughter just found out the two girls are still being allowed to attend this weekend and carry on with the award, despite the suspension and despite the never ever turning up to the meetings in the past year.

I'm a bit as towards the end of last term my daughter and her group were kept for two hours for one of the meetings as they 'hadn't done enough work' which was fine but now hearing that these girls will gain the exact same award for basically none of the graft has got my back up.

I don't want to be 'that parent' I really don't but I don't know if I should ask the teacher who is running it in her school if this is actually fair on all the dozens of other kids that put in time and effort or should I just let it go... what would you think/do?

I'd be pissed off too! I'd probably have to say something. Not fair on those who have made the effort to attend the meetings. Your daughter could have relaxed at home or done something else instead of wasting her time attending meetings.

I think you should focus on your daughter and her achievements, not complain that other girls aren't as good as her.

I would let it go.

I get that it's a bit galling but whether they go or not makes no difference to your daughter's achievement, and she must have got a lot more out of the whole DoE experience than they did.

Possibly there are mitigating circumstances that have led the DoE people to be lenient with them. If one of them was drinking at school then she may well have a lot of shit going on in her life.