To expect someones dp/dh etc to stay faithful to them and not be selfish b######s ?

[LilyLoo]

Just a thought. I am relatively new to mnet and am shocked at how many people are coming on here looking for support in this situation. I being one of them. Why can people who have never even met each other be more supportive than someone whom you have promised your future too? Why do partners treat people they love like this? Just that there is so much shame surrounding this situation yet it seems to be something lot's of people can identify with.

OP should also say dw's as well.

Partners are sometime blind to it, as its easier for us to come on here and shout about it, instead of speaking to them

Hi Lilyloo - I'm not an advocator of polygamy by any means but I do think that most marriages will suffer an infidelity of some sort at some time or another. Sometimes, it will be the case that a husband or wife falls in love with another person, or sometimes they may make an error in judgement - there are a million different scenarios with a million different reasons.

I myself can't conceive of ever being unfaithful to DH [polishing halo emoticon] but that might change in the future and I'm prepared to accept that possibility...

In answer to your OP, no I don't think you're unreasonable - maybe a little unrealistic?