To be concerned about my neighbor!!!

[M2R2]

A bit long please bare with me.
I moved few weeks ago, so thats a new neighbor.
My mum was visiting from another country. On moving day, mum noticed the next door house looks deserted, door as if hasn't been opened for ages, spider webs everywhere.
Mum was keeping dd aged 2 years busy while we were busy with unloading the van.
She heard a nock from inside next door window, only a hand is showing waving at dd, mum told dd to wave back then the hand start pointing at stickers on the window. Mum came to me as she doesn't know English and said that she doesn't know what the stickers said.
I went out and found out that stickers said: beware criminals property alarmed 😳.
We were a bit confused but I didn't have the time to think about it.
Second morning weather was great we were having coffee in the garden and noticed songs in our mother language. Looking to the side (neighbor side) and there it is they putted a CD player almost out of the window from 1st floor pointing our side. I though its weird but maybe they are in the garden and want to listen to song (probably they are from same country we are from). They songs lasted all day no one was in the garden, they don't have fence so noticed as our door was open.
Few days later, we noticed a middle age woman going out from the garden door to put bin away. She didn't look from our country so started wondering what was the songs about.
Few days later i knocked on her door, needed to ask about garden waste collection. She didn't open the door, she opened living room small window and answered me from there. I thanked her and told her we doing our garden and if she doesn't need green bin if we can use it. She said yes. Minutes later I heard she was moving the bin (to give to us). I opened garden gate to take it and thanked her again. She said welcome but was avoiding eye contact.
Though she probably lives alone and scared from new neighbor (not that we look scary of any kind ).
What do you think?
I never seen her out. I noticed another person in the house once. Sometimes i hear really loud laughs coming from their living room while going in my car. We share driveway. Just now was getting my kids out of the car and heard the laughing again and a hard knock on the window. I turned and saw her laughing and waiving at dd!
I smiled and waved back.
something feels weird isn't it?

She just sounds a bit reclusive and shy to me.

Maybe she lives alone and has a carer/support worker.

Welcome to the UK, the land of odd neighbours. It's OK just get on about your business, I'm sure she is harmless.

They seem like nice neighbours, just not particularly sociable. Tried to make you feel welcome, leant you their bin and have responded to you when you have knocked on the door, etc.

Each to their own. Nice of her to
Lend you her bin

Maybe she's shy, nervous of strangers and/or suffers from agoraphobia?

In a way I think the music from your home country might have been a nice, albeit slightly odd, gesture from her. She's heard you and your mum talking in your native language and thought you'd like to hear some music from 'home'. And the knocking on the window, smiling and waving strikes me that she's trying to be friendly, without having to come outside to chat.

I didn't think she is harmful. And that what i was thinking she is probably shy or something. She wasn't smiling. She was giggling and laughing so loud.
Tbh the pointing that she have alarms following the music feels odd as if i know who you are 🙈.
I did on purpose knock on her door though if i talk to her she will see that i am not here for a fight lol.
Do you think i should try to talk to her if i meet her or just say hi and go on my way?

How did she know where you were from? Do you have a sticker on your car with your home country flag? Otherwise, unless she overheard you speaking your first language and by amazing coincidence keen recognised it, how on earth would she know?

I'd keep contact to a minimum just smile and wave!

PS - are there other neighbours you can ask about it?

Yeah, just a recluse but friendly enough and she obviously likes children.

Maybe she is very shy with adults but likes children? I wouldn't worry too much about it. People are odd.

I'd recognise a few words from quite a few languages. That's not some amazingly tricky feat.

Do you think i should try to talk to her if i meet her or just say hi and go on my way?

How old is she? I'd try and talk to her, why not? She may just need a good friend, although with all the laughing maybe she already has one in there

She might have problems with eye contact. Some people find it difficult. Often people like this find children easier to talk to or interact with because they are just children and less scary than adults.

Seems they are shy - but nice too! Just carry on interacting when you see her, she might come out of her shell a bit :)

I don't know any of the neighbours. I can't just knock on doors and ask about next door. I must add previous tenants moved out just 7 months after living here. Could it be linked? I don't think she works. The only time i see her out is when taking the bins and i must add she have zero waste only recycling out every week is that even possible? Who buy her food?

She seems nice maybe she has learning difficulties or shyness.

Next step is down to you. she lent you her bin so you do something in return, take some flowers round, or some cake or something, tell her your name and see how things go.

Ps take your daughter with you, children can be an icebreaker, especially with shy people who often relate better to children than to adults.

If she doesn't ever open the front door I suspect she has some sort of condition like agoraphobia or OCD. Or maybe her door with all the spider webs is just broken and she can't unlock it?! If she puts the bins/recycling out, she must have a means of leaving the house (back door?)

My previous next door neighbour turned out to be a compulsive hoarder. We found this out when someone tried to break in to her house while she was out and we called the police. The police then knocked on our door after they'd investigated and explained that it appeared the burglars had forced the patio doors and then just gone away again because the house was so crammed with rubbish and other stuff that there was barely room to move. Apparently the only clear spaces in the whole house were the sofa (where the neighbour must have slept as her bed wasn't accessible) and the bathtub. The police genuinely thought there was nobody living there and someone had just used the house for storage.

In all other respects she was perfectly ordinary and had a decent job etc. By the time we left, a huge shrub had grown over her front door and she had fight through it every time she wanted to get in or out.

What's your language? Not being nosy, just thinking that a lot of languages are fairly easily recognised so that bit might not be sinister!

Yes, the behaviour is slightly odd; however, it doesn't seem ill-intentioned and the woman has responded in a nice way. I would suspect learning difficulties too, and that could explain the cctv and not opening the door, for her protection.

Personally if I were you I would be tempted to take round a small present, maybe some home cooking - a special cake or savoury from your country? And a little note with it like "we noticed you like the music from my country, perhaps you would also like to try the food?" Knock on the door and if she comes to the window, tell her and say you'll leave it on her doorstep. Just make sure that you put it on a paper plate or napkin or something as you might not get a proper plate back if she's shy or unable to come out! At least she'll know you aren't a threat and will be reassured.

I like the idea of taking a cake around. I won't feel comfortable going in her house.
I think its easy to recognise my language but how the hell she got the music i think it was on a radio I don't even know how to get that myself 🙈.