Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

AIBU to take DD to her first sports practice even though she can't play?

11 replies

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/09/2017 02:21

DD is physically and developmentally disabled, but very active. For us, when school starts (today) most of the autumn sports start up the same week.

She had a fall in July and had a severe break to her clavicle. It did not set, and has been quite slow to heal. Currently, it is healing, but the bone ends are not in contact. They are sitting one piece above the other, like an offset equals sign. The surgeon seems okay with this, as odd as it sounds.

This week baseball, sledge hockey, figure skating and gymnastics all start. We have been told by her surgeon that she is not to engage in activities that risk a fall, especially onto her shoulder, so while the activities start, she can't participate.

She desperately wants to attend. I have reminded her she cannot participate, but she is adamant that she still must go.

I have relented and agreed to take her, just so she can see her teammates again and watch the practices.

DH thinks I am wasting time, I contend that this will be the weekly routine for the next several months, so there is no harm in going.

What is your view on it all?

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 06/09/2017 03:22

I think your daughter's dedication should be honoured and encouraged. Yes, she injured and can't play, but she can support her teammates. I think this shows a lot about her character. She wants to support her friends and stay a part of the action. What a great girl you have! Your husband is being very shortsighted.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/09/2017 03:25

Also, isn't this what being a team member is really all about? To be invested in how your team is progressing? After all, it isn't whether you win or lose, but how you play the game. I would be very proud of her positive attitude.

ilovesooty · 06/09/2017 03:32

She sounds absolutely great and yes, take her. I hope she makes a good recovery and is playing again soon.

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/09/2017 03:42

Thank you for your responses.

She takes her sports very seriously, and is none too happy about being sidelined.

Her hockey team won the Provincial championship last year, so she is determined to help them keep the streak going. The rest of her sports are through Special Olympics but she takes them very seriously. She has her eyes firmly set on the 2023 World Special Olympic Games... And with her determination, it isn't impossible, either.

I can just imagine how her conversation with the surgeon is going to go next week... Grin

OP posts:
mylaptopismylapdog · 06/09/2017 03:59

I have been to a lecture where they said that when a dancer watches another dancer but doesn't dance their brains react as if they were dancing themselves I.e. It is as if they are going through the motions themselves.Sports teams watch sports videos to learn so watching is probably part of her practice so YANBU.

emmyrose2000 · 06/09/2017 09:16

Your daughter sounds lovely, and I think if she wants to go along and support her team mates then it can only be a good thing.

I'm sending her positive vibes for the 2023 Games! Smile

Sandsunsea · 06/09/2017 09:20

I agree with everyone, your daughter sounds amazing, absolutely take her.

GlacindaTheTroll · 06/09/2017 09:29

Definitely take her.

See if the club leaders can teach her some elements of coaching (or refereeing for the baseball only). It'll improve her sports ability in the round

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/09/2017 13:23

Well, off to school this morning, but before school she was working on her hockey sled - she shared that if she can't hit the ice, maybe the equipment manager can teach her how to do some work on her own.

I don't know how I managed to get such an awesome kid..

AIBU to take DD to her first sports practice even though she can't play?
OP posts:
5rivers7hills · 06/09/2017 13:39

Def take her - she can still learn and it's nice to feel part of the team

Glumglowworm · 06/09/2017 13:42

She sounds like a great kid! Yes, still take her if she wants to go

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread