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R.E paying for an extra adult at playgroup?

142 replies

Doglikeafox · 05/09/2017 18:42

Hi everyone,
I've been attending a playgroup for a few months now with four children. Entry is £3 for the first child, and then £1 for each accompanying child. So it is £6 for my four children to attend. We love the playgroup, and it has always been well worth the money in my opinion. We usually stop in the cafe afterwards and purchase cups of tea, toast etc and we occasionally meet there with friends (who purchase their own entry separately).
My partner is off work today so decided he would join us too. When we got to the till to pay for our entry, we were told it was £8. When I asked the cost breakdown, they said it was £3 for one child, £1 for an extra child and then my partner had to pay for two of the children too so it was another £4 for the other two children. I said this seemed odd as we had been paying £6 for weeks and it didn't make sense to pay an extra £2 today when I was bringing the exact same amount of children. The lady responded that my DP was paying for 'the privilege of getting in'.
We had only brought £6 with us today, and I didn't have any money on me other than my credit card. I'm not sure if she didn't have a card machine or if it just didn't accept credit cards but she said I couldn't use that to pay so I then had to turn around and head home. The children were quite upset and I feel a bit naffed off. Surely you can't just stipulate that its £2 more because I had an extra adult with me? DP and I were quite obviously a family and not just two random adults trying to get in and pay less.
AIBU? I was really surprised that they turned us away, especially when there were no signs up or anything on the advertisement to say that the £1 per extra child only applied for one adult.

OP posts:
MacaroonMama · 05/09/2017 19:31

So many people on here who haven't RTFT!!!

OP, YADNBU. She was being stupid. If prices are for kids, they are for kids. If you are a regular and they are siblings, she should have charged the usual fee. Definitely make a complaint - you don't have to be grumpy in it (though it would be tempting), but just say you always go, the prices are for children not adults, your kids were excited about taking Daddy to playgroup, the organisers have lost out on a customer etc.

Sorry it turned out to be a crap morning. Have some Wine - oh and hats off to you for coping with four litttle ones!

RhiWrites · 05/09/2017 19:34

Also I don't see how its relevant...

You mentioned in your OP that you usually went to the cafe afterwards. So it is relevant that you usually have more money.

And you can take cash out with a credit card. But you can amend my suggestion to "lesson is is carry extra cash for emergencies".

MissionItsPossible · 05/09/2017 19:36

I agree with Momst It sounds like the first child is £3 but basically meaning £2 for the adult and £1 for the child which fits in with subsequent children costing £1. Maybe it's not advertised as such but it sounds right.

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 19:39

You said in your OP that your children were quite upset so it's a fair assumption that they would have preferred to go in with one parent.

It's only a fair assumption if you think Toddlers are well known for their logic and understanding of things not going their way.

The op promised them playgroup with both parents due to circumstances behind her control one or both of those things were not going to happen. When they realised that mum or dad was leaving they were going to kick off

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 19:42

She says she it's for food with card! Why are people trying so hard to catch the OPniut. I've seen a dozen awful trolls this week but for some reason this is the one threadnpeople question Confused

ElizabethShaw · 05/09/2017 19:42

She sounds like a dick, I'd complain to the centre.

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 19:42

Pays for food

MiraiDevant · 05/09/2017 19:43

Sorry I think that YABU.

It cost £6 for 4 children and an adult. That is really cheap. They have overheads. You bring another person and it is reasonable that you pay something more. It is only another £2. It sounds as if it is completely reasonable to ask for more money

You also only brought £6 with you yet you always go to the cafe. Why not this particular day? Why didn't DP go back home while you stayed?

How should they charge? Unlimited adults and unlimited kids per "group". Or should they allow adults in without children? (I imagine you would disapprove of that). Two adults and unlimited, (or 3,4,5,6,???) kids. (Not fair on those who don't team up). But what if I bring elder sibling during school holidays? Or Grannie tags along as well?

So - one adult and kids but no unaccompanied adults. Seems fair to me

Places like this are really struggling to keep going and to keep prices low.

So Yes, YABU

ToElleWithIt · 05/09/2017 19:44

YANBU our playgroup is 4 for first child and 1 for each sibling. Sometime DH goes too. We can have a chat in relative peace while kids are entertained and the charge is the same.

2 people can't join game up and pay 6 because the rule applies to siblings only.

Bluelonerose · 05/09/2017 19:44

Back when I went to a toddler group it was £1.50 per child. My dh would often pop in and see us if he had chance because it was only in the next street from his job. I'de normally pop an extra 50p in the pot so he could have a cuppa and a biscuit with me.
I certainly wouldn't of paid £1.50 for him to come in too.
Sounds like she was on a power trip.

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 19:46

How should they charge? Unlimited adults and unlimited kids per "group".

Confused no they charge per kid as stated in their offer.

frogsoup · 05/09/2017 19:49

If you get cash out with a credit card you have to pay interest from the second you get it out, unlike spending in a shop, when as long as you pay the credit card bill on time you don't pay any interest.

It would be stark raving bonkers to use a credit card to get cash out to attend a toddler group. What is wrong with people (apart from having shit financial literacy) asking ridiculous nitpicky questions about a perfectly straightforward account of what happened?!

EduCated · 05/09/2017 19:50

2 people can't join game up and pay 6 because the rule applies to siblings only.

What happens when people insist they're siblings? They can hardly demand to see birth certificates and the like.

It does sound like a more commercial group, rather than a cosy friendly church hall one where you chuck what you can in the pot.

MuchasSmoochas · 05/09/2017 19:50

That's crap service OP. YANBU.,

gabsdot · 05/09/2017 19:51

I don't think you ABU. For the sake of £2 the cashier was being s total jobsworth.

Doglikeafox · 05/09/2017 19:52

I'm not suggesting they allow unlimited adults or unlimited kids! I'm saying that DP and I were quite obviously a couple, the children were quite obviously siblings and the actual pricing is £3 for first CHILD, £1 for subsequent CHILDREN.
I'm also not suggesting they allow random adults in... he was quite obviously with us and was holding one of the twins at the time!

OP posts:
dustarr73 · 05/09/2017 19:52

Well go next week and pay the £6 in pennies.😁

Doglikeafox · 05/09/2017 19:53

What is wrong with people (apart from having shit financial literacy) asking ridiculous nitpicky questions about a perfectly straightforward account of what happened?!

Confused I'm wondering the same thing!

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PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 19:57

I can assure you as a mother of three very boring singletons who happen to be very poorly spaced that people remember you everywhere you go if you have quite a lot of children. The OP going to the same playgroup with twins and two other toddlers/infants regularly will be known there. It would be obvious they weren't trying it on.

5rivers7hills · 05/09/2017 19:58

Why on earth are you getting such a hard time?

YANBU

stella23 · 05/09/2017 20:01

Yanbu, price is £3 1st child £1 each after.

Ignore all the cafe questions, clearly they take cards,

dustarr73 · 05/09/2017 20:02

I don't know why people come on here and try pick apart a simple stop.

Questioning things that have nothing to do with anything.

Who in their right mind, takes money from a cash point using a credit card.That is one of the most ridiculous things I've read on here.

And no op yanbu.

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 20:06

This is one of the weirder threads I've ever read.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 05/09/2017 20:08

She sounds a right jobsworth - YANBU>

FatBettyintheCoop · 05/09/2017 20:09

How can she demand extra payment for a second adult to accompany the family when they don't levy a charge for adults normally?
Their charging policy is £3 for the first child and £1 for subsequent siblings.
I'd write a letter to the leisure centre boss pointing out the discrepancy in their usual policy and her 'make it up on the spot' policy. Hmm

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