To think that calling your friend's kids ugly is not normal?

[Onionpeeler]

I was recently involved in a conversation with a group of old friends who started talking about another friend's children, looking at their photos on Facebook and calling them ugly. I was so shocked. Is this normal?!

My MIL does, she's said it about her own GC and her own daughter! God knows what she says about me, actually I can guess!

That's not a normal thing to say about anyone's child

Nasty behaviour but I've known people like this.

Not everyone, young or old is aesthetically pleasing to a wider audience. Otherwise we'd all be catwalk models and fighting Anne Geddes off the doorstep.

But people are always going to think other people are ugly, regardless of age.

It's mean to sit around laughing/talking about their ugliness though!

Those who describe others' children as ugly should be aware their own children may be regarded as ugly by others
so what? I think my children are gorgeous and amazing, but I am also aware that they are not the center of the universe, so who cares? People would not be fawning so much about Prince George if he wasn't a prince. (not saying he's ugly, but he's just a little boy, no less or more than any other little boy).

that a gorgeous young chil may grow up to be an unattractive adult and vice versa
It's very often the case, perfect features at a young age don't age that well.

I even heard some parents saying that their child was ugly, but cute and lovely. Some people are less attractive than others, big deal. It's hardly news. I wouldn't tell parents that their child is ugly, that's mean.

I actually think Prince George is properly gorgeous! Charlotte, less so.

I work every day with 4 and 5 year olds and think all children are beautiful. All of them. Even the ridiculous ones that don't listen to a damned thing. They're adorable and cute and funny. You just have to look for the loveliness and you'll find something.

To deliberately look through someone's social media account for something to pick on is the behaviour of a vile bully. The only way to stop a bully is to stand up to them. i honestly think I'd say something unkind about anyone showing me photos of 'ugly' children. What a revolting life to lead.

It should not have been voiced. Unfortunately there are some people who feel the need to tell you their thoughts.

We all know not every adult or child is beautiful but there is no need to discuss it.

I think Charlotte is absolutely adorable! It's a good thing we all have our favourites

I'm sure we've all seen a kid who isn't a classic beauty and might even mention it in private to a DP/DH or whatever, but flicking through Facebook photos in a group for the sole purpose of mocking someone else's children's looks is absolutely horrible. Are these grown women? They're behaving like bitchy school bullies. It's vile and I'd be ashamed if my friends behaved like that.

I do remember an ex colleague saying something really, really horrible which I'm not even going to repeat about another colleague's very premature baby, which was met with an awkward, furious silence. She was one of the most unpleasant people I've ever met though. Fortunately the picture had just been emailed by the baby's mum and she wasn't actually present to hear what was said.