To be a tad peeved my mum has forgotten my birthday?

[MrsOverTheRoad]

I don;t live in the same country as her but we speak almost daily. She always remembers my sister's birthday...why's she forgotten mine?

It's tomorrow...I know she hasn't remembered as she will always tell me if she's posted a card for an occassion to let me know to look out for it.

Not a word has she uttered!

She's not "old" but is active and works part time with a nice, busy social life.

I'm no "It's MY BIRTHDAY SO YOU MUST WORSHIP ME" type...far from it. I don't expect a gift...even a phonecall is appreciated.

I'm turning 45 so you'd think I wouldn't care but I do!

I think you need to wait until your birthday has actually passed before jumping the gun and saying she has forgotten.

She has forgotten. She ALWAYS tells me if she's posted a card...always. She will say when she posted it etc so that I look out for it.

She would usually mention it days before. I live in Australia so it's a long way for post.

You can't be certain she's forgotten just yet.

Maybe she hasn't posted it because she's planning on coming to visit you? Or sent it by email this year. Or arranged flowers to be delivered and sent the card with that

I'd wait till tomorrow to get upset

She always remembers my sister's birthday...why's she forgotten mine?

So what is the real issue?

Could she be coming over to surprise you?

Could she simply have forgotten to tell you?

It's unlikely she'll have forgotten her own child's birthday! Don't beat yourself up about this today, OP! Try and wait and see and don't over think it.

She won't come here...she doesn't fly. She doesn't use email either.

Or mobiles.

She has forgotten...I know her. She'd have mentioned it.

Ok.... so.....

Maybe still wait till tomorrow to make sure?! Not sure what you want us to do to sympathise when your birthday is tomorrow and you're not actually sure that she has forgotten

Moomin thanks but I AM sure.I've known her long enough to know when she's forgotten.

Is she the kind of person who regularly forgets things? If so, annoying as it is don't take it personally. This is just your turn to be forgotten.

If she's super organised normally is there a reason she might have forgotten? Is she very busy right now and has a genuine reason for forgetting? Or is she a bit toxic and has done it deliberately for some reason?

Wait till your birthday, see if you get anything and if not then feel free to chat about what you've done for your birthday when you speak to her in your daily chat and then if she has genuinely forgotten about it she'll be suitably horrified and apologise. If she doesn't then you need to worry.

She's often dismissive of me really and I feel sad because I don't want to mention it to her as I genuinely don;t want her to feel bad...I'm sure she will feel bad if she realises. But she's a bit...hot and cold as a Mum....maybe it's that that makes me sad.