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Quitting work with nothing to go to?

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redphonebox · 04/09/2017 15:50

Anyone done this?

I'm in a new role which I hate. It's making me depressed.

I know it's easier to find a job when you're in a job, and long term I do want to work, but I don't feel I can do this job anymore. We could survive on my DH's salary for a bit but only just.

Help.

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Anatidae · 04/09/2017 15:52

Don't if you can help it.

Give yourself a time goal and try to see it as a necessary evil. During that time just try to emotionally detach and grow all your energies into finding something new.

m4rdybum · 04/09/2017 16:02

Personally I wouldn't do this - too much of a risk in today's fluctuating job market.

Grit your teeth and bare it, but get applying every single night. Even if it's just a stepping stone job to get you out this one that's making you miserable.

Launderetta · 04/09/2017 16:12

I did it, albeit 20 years ago, and found a new job within a couple of months. It was a bit of a challenge to explain why I'd left to my new employer but perhaps naively I thought honesty was the best policy & it paid off.
Like you I was becoming depressed in my role, in this case due to bullying from my boss (he'd bullied my predecessor to a nervous breakdown, which should've been a bit of a red flag to me!)
We had no kids at the time so the risk was limited.
I'm not sure I'd do it nowadays though as being a parent has changed my world view.
Apart from short term money, I guess it also depends on what business you're in & how much demand there is for your skills.

Good luck.

SummerKelly · 04/09/2017 16:17

Yep. Three times. Once I expected to get a new job but worked freelance and the others I left specifically to work freelance. I guess it depends on your role and the competition for jobs in your field but it could be an advantage to not have to give notice for some organisations.

RubyGoat · 04/09/2017 16:19

I did, 14 years ago. But I was still living with my parents then. Now, I hate my current job. (Been there a very long time.) My health is deteriorating, partly due to stress & the shifts I have to work. But I have to support DD & DH (he's currently a student), so I wouldn't dream of voluntarily leaving without another job to go to. Far too risky IMHO. Much as I'd dearly love to tell my bastard employers to stuff their rotten job.

NamedyChangedy · 04/09/2017 16:20

I did it about 4 years ago and am so pleased I did. I was reporting into a toxic newly-appointed CEO and it was wearing me down, along with everyone else.

However, I had a 6 month notice period so felt like I had more than enough time to find something else. I also work in an industry where my experience is very much in demand.

Having a partner who can support you through it (both emotionally and financially) is a huge help, as it allows you to make sure your next move really is a good fit.

spidey66 · 04/09/2017 16:22

I never have, despite being in jobs I've hated. I've always kept my head down, gritted my teeth and put all my spare time and energy into applications. I know the feeling of hating your job so much though. My last one I ended up spending whole weekends in tears at the thought of going in on Monday.

Lucisky · 04/09/2017 16:23

Yes, I've done it several times, but when I was much younger (I am retired now). I always had a low boredom threshhold, and would move on without a thought, however, the jobs market was totally different in those days. It was stressful at times, and financially very awkward at times too. The relief when I left one shitty job was so great I can recall the feeling even now.
How about getting something part-time for a few months while you look for something else - or even a couple of part time positions? That will keep you in the job market so to speak and keep some money coming in. I often used to do that when I was between full time jobs. I didn't mind what I did (as long as it was legal!) and it boosts your confidence and gives you a chance to try things you may never have thought of.

distanceinair · 04/09/2017 16:28

More times than I care to admit Blush

It's always worked out, somehow :)

Bluelonerose · 04/09/2017 16:29

I would say if you dh is happy to support you do it if you feel that's what it best.
I had to leave a job I loved due to ptsd and my dh supported me. I was lucky and 6 weeks later another job dropped in my lap. I lasted 6 months. I just wasn't ready to go back to work .

araiwa · 04/09/2017 16:31

I think you should stick it out until you get a new job. Its so unfair on your dh to put everything on him for an undeterminite time and what happens if something happens to him or his job?

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redphonebox · 04/09/2017 17:31

I don't think my skills are that in demand, unfortunately, although I've been employed for a long time with no breaks except mat leave so maybe that would be a start at least.

I worry that I would hate anything else just as much, because I wasn't keen on my old job then took this sideways move in the organisation and it's even worse!! I've lost confidence in myself completely now and my ability to choose roles which match my skills/preferences.

Never would a lottery win be more welcome!

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redphonebox · 04/09/2017 20:10

Sooo....having discussed with DH, think I'm going to save a bit then when we've hit the target...I'll quit...

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 04/09/2017 20:40

I've done it twice and it's been fine.
I don't have any dependents tho Grin

SantanicoPandemonium · 04/09/2017 20:49

That sounds like a good plan. If you can live off just your dh's wages while saving yours, you'll know if one salary is doable and you'll have a slush fund for unforeseen expenses.

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