To not understand how dying elderly parents can be supported without massive input from their DC?

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We have had a rather sad summer. Both PIL have had terminal illnesses, and needed significant care. MIL died last week. They had a live in carer but wouldn't have been able to have this organised or their health needs met fully without the my DH and my SIL visiting/staying constantly. I haven't seen my DH for more than a few days over the last weeks, and luckily he has been able to 'work from home'. My SIL is a SAHM which has given her some flexibility.

We dread to think what their parents last days would have been like without them being able to be there and help out. What on earth do other families do in these circumstances. Because the PIL have both been palliative and DNR no hospital would take them anyway.

District Nurses/Marie Curie/agency care package.
Admission to hospital/hospice/GP bed in Community hospital (some still exist)/ Nursing Home.

Sorry, pressed post too soon.
It must have been and still is, a very difficult time for you and your family ,OP. It is good that you and your family were able to take care of your loved ones in their final journey.

What on earth do other families do in these circumstances. Because the PIL have both been palliative and DNR no hospital would take them anyway

You could also ask what do people who don't have family do in these circumstances? I'm single, once my parents are dead, there is just me. I'm not going to have any children to help (and having kids is no guarantee anyway).

Sorry for your loss. Must have been great for them knowing you were there.