Girls' parties/Boys' parties

[JellyMouldJnr]

My DD is 5 and about to start reception. It seems like most parents at present are doing parties for either all the girls or all the boys. The thing is, my DD is a bit of a tomboy and most of her friends are boys. This situation means she is invited to lots of parties with people she is not really friends with and misses the parties of her closer friends. WIBU to ask on the FB group for her to be on the 'boy' list rather than the 'girl' list for parties?

YABU of course. At 5, friendships are very fluid still...they change almost termly.

She might be close to certain children now but you can't say they'll be the same kids in a year or less.

Unfortunately it's unreasonable to ask to be on an invitation list, period. Even on Facebook. However, I sympathize, and hope your DD manages to have a good time, whichever party she's at. :)

You'd be unreasonable simply because children begin to invite who they want at that age and not who their parents would like them to invite. You can't really will your daughter on other children.

You could mention to other parents that your daughter is particularly friendly with but in a less formal way. She (DD) could also ignore the list and invite who she wants.

Honestly, I've never heard of this. You do get parties where girls invite only girls but this is down to friendship groups / politics (not leaving out 1 or 2 girls when all others are invited)

in before predictable school bashing, anti-gender militants post predictable responses

thanks all. I won't say anything, will just hope that we can have some parties based on friendships (rather than just gender) soon. I think it is because it is a small village school so people see this as a way to make parties smaller without offending people.

BTW she is a July birthday so no chance to have her party soon.

"I think it is because it is a small village school so people see this as a way to make parties smaller without offending people."

Sounds entirely likely.

When's your daughter's birthday? If she's amongst the oldest she could begin a trend with inviting frineds and not simply girls.

x-post.

Ah. Shame

Yabu, you can't ask for her to be invited to a party. Children would say "I want x to come to my party" surely if they were great friends?

Boys and girls only parties at 5? What a load of tripe.

Invite some of her make friends round for play dates and get to know the mum's

The apostrophe tete was autocorrect, before anyone jumps on it.

There. Ffs.