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AIBU to be sobbing into my ice-cream because my DD fell asleep on me?

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Caenea · 03/09/2017 21:32

I picked her up to give her a cuddle because she was being a fusspot, and she snuggled in, yawned and fell straight to sleep.

She hasn't fallen asleep on me since she was 5mo (10mo now). She insists on sleeping in her cot. She always used to need rocking to sleep and honestly while at the time it was a bit of a PITA, I have really missed it since she stopped doing it. There was something magic and wonderful about cuddling her warm little body as she snoozed.

DP clearly doesn't know why I'm sobbing silently into ice-cream.

Would anyone else get so emotional over this, or do I need to pull up my big girl knickers and get a grip?

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Allthewaves · 03/09/2017 22:10

My 4 year old still likes a weekend nap so we snuggle on the sofa and snooze (it's lovely)

Louiselouie0890 · 03/09/2017 22:14

Exactly why I couldn't wait to meet my new little one. I missed those cuddles didn't think I ever would (its exhausting) nothing better than a cuddle from a child who doesn't scream or wriggle away lol

Iamabuyingbootsaddict · 03/09/2017 22:24

Make the most of every second of it and savour it. Before you know they'll be teenagers ... Nothing can prepare!!

DJBaggySmalls · 03/09/2017 22:24

I wibbled when I found a pair of tiny socks I'd tucked away.

GurlwiththeCurl · 03/09/2017 22:27

Don't worry, folks. I am almost permanently bedridden with chronic illness and my DSs often come in for a cuddle. Sometimes they even fall asleep when I stroke their heads...

...they are 25 and 27 YEARS old!

Passmethecrisps · 03/09/2017 22:30

I recall my MIL guiltily confessing that she had quite liked looking after my then 2yo dd with chickenpox as she wasn't then a cuddly child and rarely sat still. But a mild dose of chicken pox slowed her just enough to make her want sofa and granny cuddles.

I knew what she meant. She wasn't wishing dd poorly but rather enjoying the resultant cuddles

AlpacaLypse · 03/09/2017 22:30

DD2 used to come to bed at about 4 a.m. every night until she was about four. Then it became occasional. And then one morning when she was about seven I realised she'd not been there for over six months. Okay so I was finally getting a clear night's sleep, but at the same time I felt so weepy about it!

She's off to Uni in a couple of weeks

AlpacaLypse · 03/09/2017 22:31

@GurlwiththeCurl wins the thread!

TheSassyAssassin · 03/09/2017 22:32

Awww Gurl, sorry to hear you're so poorly but lovely that you have that relationship with your DS's.

Another one with an 8 year old (DD) falling asleep in my arms a couple of weeks ago....and yes....I most definitely had something in my eye!

mrwalkensir · 03/09/2017 22:36

GurlwiththeCurl our youngest (19) fell asleep on my shoulder the other day - nearly squashed me, but very lovely.

UrsulaPandress · 03/09/2017 22:40

My nearly 18 year old gets in bed with me when scared/sad/worried and I lie there listening to her snoring breathing with a stupid grin on my face.

GrasswillbeGreener · 03/09/2017 22:45

My kids (12 and 14) and I have been to Australia and back this summer to visit grandparents. I elected to sit in the middle between them, and a number of times I had the youngest asleep with his head on my shoulder. [The older one tried it but had trouble sleeping on the plane full stop - nothing's changed much then ... ]

sleepisthebest · 03/09/2017 22:48

My DD only napped on me and had to be rocked to sleep every bedtime until she was 10 months old. It was so draining at the time, I used to sit there with her asleep on me for hours at a time every day willing her to get older and grow out of it.

Then at 10 months she just stopped and wanted to be left alone in her cot. She's 17 months now and I'd so love for her to cuddle and fall asleep on me occasionally again. I'm lucky if I get a quick kiss these days!

Haudyerwheesht · 03/09/2017 22:52

Twice recently dd (6) hasn't been able to get to sleep - hours of tossing and turning etc. Both times I've eventually taken her in bed with me and she has literally lay down, cuddled in and been out like a light.

Also she was ill on holiday this year and was in bed with me because she had really bad earache and tummy pain. I had to sing her to sleep and stroke her tummy whilst she played with my hair and then when she woke up in the morning even though she still wasn't well she rolled over half asleep and cuddled me and said 'mummy I am so happy you're right here'.

OhBeggerItsMorning · 03/09/2017 23:05

My youngest son was 7 on Friday, he came downstairs at about 11pm upset and said "I don't want my birthday to be over." He cuddled up on the sofa with me, I covered us in a blanket and he promptly fell asleep! I woke up at about 2.30am, roused DH from his slumber on the chair and mentioned we had better 'get the hot water bottle to his bed'. All four of our boys have acted as really good hot water bottles for us, but as they get older I get to cuddle with them less and less.

YANBU to get emotional at DD falling asleep on you, YWBU to not make the most of it while you can.

BabychamSocialist · 03/09/2017 23:06

I used to love that too with my sons. Then they'd piss on me or shit on me, and it sort of took the shine off it a bit...

HorridHenryrule · 03/09/2017 23:06

I get it but wait until she gets older and in secondary school. I dropped of my child in boarding school the other day. I cant stop feeling sad but proud at the same time. I have cried a few times.

HorridHenryrule · 03/09/2017 23:08

I'm afraid to say these emotions never fade away they just get worse. The more independent they become the less they need you.

BlackeyedSusan · 03/09/2017 23:18

by the time they are nine years old it will have worn off a bit.

PyongyangKipperbang · 03/09/2017 23:21

DD is 6 and on the odd occasion she has done this (only when ill) since she was a few weeks old, I feel the same! Last time DH tried to pick her up off me and take her to bed and I stopped him.

wildone81 · 03/09/2017 23:25

9 week old DD drifting off on me now and its bliss 😊 secretly loving the 'keep upright for half an hour after a feed' advice because it means we get extra snuffly cuddles and head sniffing opportunities......

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 03/09/2017 23:40

DD (21) fell asleep on me a couple of months ago. Her little boy, (7 days, see Classics for pics) is taking his turn now.

Lovelilies · 03/09/2017 23:44

I love to co sleep with DCs #2&3. DC1 is 12 now and doesn't 'need' me the same so I'm treasuring every moment with the little ones.
The whole 'rod for your own back' business is shite as far as I'm concerned.
They're babies for such a short time, enjoy every cuddle and snooze

Lovelilies · 03/09/2017 23:46

We just got a huge bed to solve the squashed mess 😂

PenSylvester · 04/09/2017 07:06

Oh how lovely for you! My very independent 5yo DD fell asleep on me on Saturday and it was the best feeling. I felt a bit emotional too!

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