Fully expecting to be told I'm being a controlling nut but...
A couple of years ago dh told me a coworker he was good friends with told him she had feelings for him and he felt the same way. He was really messed up by it and apparently still loved me but didn't know what to do. I was obviously devastated and said I'd prefer if he keep away as much as possible (they worked closely in the same team, but I wanted him to avoid the one on one lunches etc.). This apparently was a problem, and he basically refused saying if he did that it would make this person 'forbidden fruit'. He also brought up the fact I was always uncomfortable with him female friends (tbf this is true) and he's had enough of it.
We fought and fought, then one day he says the feelings were gone. He thinks they came up due to us being stuck in a rut and he wants to travel and move abroad (something we'd talked about but I was hesitant). I agreed, got a job in Europe and we moved 18 months ago. I also stopped acting insecurely when he mentioned female friends and I'm in counselling.
But he's still in contact with her and they email every so often. He is barely in contact with anyone else and always says he's not very good at keeping in touch with friends which makes it worse in my eyes that she's 'special' if you see what I mean. I know that it's only emails and he's no longer around her but I'm hurt that he didn't stay away from her then, and he still doesn't now. I think this shows lack of respect to us and our marriage, he thinks I'm being unreasonable and controlling. Who's right?