AIBU. Completed sale on house a month ago and our plans were to decorate and carpet and fit a shower into the very small loo downstairs by building it into an under stair cupboard. The day we got the keys the whole family came up to have a look and all gave very valuable opinions on how we should do this and that. It's a small house and we are a big family so using the space was key to a successful happy home. Anyway on my DH side his DU offered to do the work needed with his two friends who were in the building game plus as we were cash short his DU is paying his friends for us and we are paying him back later. His Labour is free. His DU however has taken over and now we have a new bathroom and shower room. New kitchen. Walls knocked down and put up etc. It's amazing and I love the work he's done even though we are 20k worse off. His DB offered to do the garden and all he's done so far is rip out the old garden and it's been left. Totally unusable and until it's finish DU can't do the lower floor and we can't move in. I've asked DH to have a word and maybe offer to spend the day doing it with him etc to pin him down. He offered to help we didn't ask and now I have a shit hole of a garden that's unusable and very dangerous. AIBU to think he should get on with it. I can foresee the bad weather is on its way and our move in date is being pushed back further and further. Any advise on how I can tackle it without seeming rude or ungreatful.