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Those of you with anxiety. . .

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kniftyknitter · 02/09/2017 21:44

Is it always the same thing that triggers your anxiety, or does it vary? Mine is fixated on certain things - noisy neighbours, drunk people. I have some 'coping mechanisms' (rarely going out at night, never into pubs) - although I think this might be avoidance rather than coping mechanisms!
Tonight as every weekend I am really struggling with neighbour noise, my anxiety takes over everything. Do any of you have any good coping mechanisms?

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BubbleAnimal · 02/09/2017 23:54

Thank you Italian. I have a good support group and NAS branch I've become involved with, so will use their help. Just took me a few months to get over the knock back if that makes sense?

BubbleAnimal · 02/09/2017 23:54

I'm 35 so a bit old for the young support one 😁

FrancisCrawford · 02/09/2017 23:56

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/09/2017 00:13

As another person mentioned, the book "Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast" by Barry McDonagh is excellent and helped me immensely. Please get it. It will give you a whole new outlook on your anxiety.

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kniftyknitter · 03/09/2017 18:39

Thanks guys, this is really helpful, I'm on citalopram and propranolol.
I'm fascinated by how many of us have anxiety around drunk people, I thought I was the only one. I wonder why this is?

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Miserylovescompany2 · 03/09/2017 19:01

Drunk people are unpredictable - you can't gauge how someone will act whilst drunk - whether it be them being loud/angry/over affectionate?

mirime · 03/09/2017 19:09

Yes, it's stressful being around drunk people. I worked in retail for a bit and hated being in late on match days.

Italiangreyhound · 03/09/2017 19:22

Bubble good to hear. All the best.

kniftyknitter I was about to say what misery said, drink people are unpredictable.

Lndnmummy · 03/09/2017 20:36

My mum triggers mine and any tips of conflict, perceived or actual. It is shit and has consumed my life for the last 6 months to the point where I have had to take a career break.

It is so upsetting. I just want to be normal.

Lndnmummy · 03/09/2017 20:37

any type of conflict.

Chocness · 03/09/2017 20:51

Fellow sufferer here too, it's the pits as it sucks the joy out of everything.

I'm doing cbt at the moment so fingers crossed that works. I've also joined Anxiety UK which is excellent. For a membership of £30 you get full access to headspace (meditation app) which I've found helpful plus access to some useful resources. Plus Anxiety Uk has counsellors that you can access. Apparently they can guarantee a counsellor within two weeks of a request. I'm doing my cbt privately but it's nice to know I have anxiety uk as a plan b. I've been recommended some books by Dr Claire Weekes, first one turned up today so I can't comment yet but the reviews on it are excellent with regards to permanently resolving anxiety.

Good luck everyone with this. It's a shit condition but one that I'm determined to fix one way or the other.

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kniftyknitter · 03/09/2017 21:13

Reading your experiences makes me feel like I'm not alone with this, so thanks and to all of your struggling with this.
I've tried CBT which I think did help a little.
I'm back to work tomorrow after a holiday, so back to obsessing and replaying everything I've done during the day and every conversation I've had, worrying if I've done something worry.
It's so bloody exhausting!

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Kerantli · 04/09/2017 15:11

@lazybobcat - you just reminded me that I did actually go in an elevator on my own the other week. Yeah, I clung to the rail, and very nearly hyperventilated in said elevator, but I did it on my own

Lazybobcat · 04/09/2017 20:14

@kerantli I was a wreck aswell, but we did it. Think it definitely counts as a proud moment

Ttbb · 04/09/2017 20:19

I think I have low key generalised anxiety but I have never been able to deal with a lot of noise (can't sit through morethat fiveninutes of football for example without wanting to cut off my ears). I've just learned to go off and sit in a dark quiet room asap.

PollyFlint · 04/09/2017 21:27

I'm fascinated by how many of us have anxiety around drunk people, I thought I was the only one.

I think it's because drunk people are unpredictable and can seem aggressive, overly touchy-feely, loud or just physically out of control, which are all things that people are often uneasy with. I also think a lot of people have been a bit scared by relatives getting drunk when they were a small child and didn't understand what was happening, so even if they don't really remember it, it's just stayed with them.

I'm not anxious about actual drunkenness per se but I am very anxious if I think someone is so drunk that they're going to be sick, as I'm terrified of people throwing up. I have nightmares about strangers throwing up in my house.

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