Wibu for asking her not to smoke?

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At an event today... involved standing a long line with cordons either side and nowhere to go forwards or back. Woman in front of us lights up a cig and proceeds to smoke over my baby and young ds. I asked her not to and she put it out gracefully so no drama but my dh thinks I was unreasonable to ask (he's an exsmoker).
Now out at a cafe or park fair enough but as we were standing in a restricted queue with nowhere to go was I wrong?

YWBU and precious.
It wouldn't have harmed them in the fresh air and you could have turned your buggy downwind from the smoke, even in a line.
I wouldn't have put mine out as there are hardly any places you can smoke these days.
Outside is legal.

Can we please not put this into a victim blaming post for those addicted to nicotine. Especially older people. They are dying from an awful disease, and despite the cause, they need love and support from their relatives.

Gilly why say it wouldn't harm then follow up with how she could get baby out of the smoke? Is it harmful or not?

yes, yes it is

Of course YANBU to ask. I think anyone who says otherwise is pretty selfish.

I don't think one cigarette being smoked nearby in the open air is going to do any harm to most people. Yes, second hand smoke is a health issue, but you're talking about a tiny amount there. It was reasonable to ask her not to, though - a queue means standing in quite close proximity, so lighting up in that situation is pretty thoughtless, especially with a baby nearby.

Not at all. YANBU

No you weren't unreasonable at all. It's not right to have something as dangerous as cigarette smoke inflicted on you and your baby. When on earth will smokers get the message!

Ywdnu

I wouldn't have put mine out as there are hardly any places you can smoke these days.
Outside is legal.

And this is why so many people think badly of smokers as a few think legal overrides the most basic consideration for others.

YANBU, she should not have lit up in those circumstances.

I'm an ex smoker and yanbu. I never smoked around kids or non-smokers.

YANBU. Smoking around a baby is disgusting. Sounds like the smoker in question hadn't noticed and was happy to stop when it was pointed out. Great, that was the right thing to do. No-one should inflict their addcition on others.

I think you were perfectly within your rights to ask her to stop,even though it's legal to smoke outdoors. However,I will say you very lucky she was so amicable. I've witnessed a few similar scenarios since the indoor smoking ban was introduced,and without fail,the smoker kicked off,big time!

I can't understand why somebody smoking a cig would kick off if someone politely asked them to refrain.
Surely, they'd just say no and carry on as I would.
I can't ever remember seeing anyone kicking off about it other than people who don't like it.

I wouldn't do it standing in a queue - I'd be too embarrassed as obviously it smells and you're kinda forcing it on other folk. I wouldn't get up in arms about others doing the same but there's no way I would.

I'm a smoker, but wouldn't actually light up with children around me. If I were with someone I'd step away from the queue for a minute or two, if alone I'd ask the person behind me to hold my place for a while.

That said, I probably would just wait. I'm not sure what queue can be SO long someone couldn't wait a while.

Seriously gilly you'd smoke over a teeny newbie after being asked politely not to? Says more about you unfortunately
There was nowhere to go and turning the pram wouldn't have protected my older child if we could have done. I'm not anti people smoking legally outside but i did feel this set up made it inappropriate. Glad most agreed

You were definitely not unreasonable. It's really annoying when people smoke in queues, where people can't get away from them.

At least the woman was polite and civilised about it though, rather than standing there and arguing that it was outside so she was 'entitled' to smoke.