hate being single

[bluebirdwhite]

AIBU?

I am lonely, bored, sexually frustrated and generally miserable.

Online dating?

Unfortunately I don't have any luck there!

Well, you aren't "unreasonable", but approaching new relationships from a point of hating being single does make you more vulnerable to picking and staying with men who don't treat you as well as they should. For that reason alone, working on your own self esteem and capacity to enjoy your own company and build your own life is a good idea before you start dating. I also think that relationships between two people who have their own lives and are happy in and with themselves are more successful.

I've dated men who were clearly desperate for a relationship and in love with being in love. It's not sexy. Are they with me because they really like me? Or just because they hate being single and lonely?

What do you like about your life currently? What can you change so that you like it more?

I know what you mean in theory but in practice I just get so horribly low being alone all of the time.

Do you have any children and many friends?

I've got friends but they are coupled up. No children.

Ok. Internet dating sucks, i know. Perhaps join a club where you will meet like minded men? Perhaps a running club or something random like a ukulele club?

Maybe thanks.

I get where you are coming from. I'm the same although it's probably too early for me after STBXH left.

I don't buy the whole 'you have to be happy on your own before starting to date' because why would I if I was happy? I know for myself that I'm happier in relationships.

I feel low and alone a lot too.

Don't give up on online dating, you just haven't got lucky yet. Maybe try another site?