In wanting to help friend celebrate?

[Sienna333]

My friends birthday is very near mine and she is also turning 32. She seems to be having a hard time dealing with it. She is single, back at home with her mum and no kids. She also looks a LOT younger than her age (I am talking about 17-20). I think all this makes her feel behind in life.
I really want to help her celebrate, even just something small but she wants to ignore it this year she said. AIBU to gently keep pushing it or should I just leave it be?

Don't push anyone to do anything. She has already expressed her feelings.

I just hate the idea of her being alone and feeling crap about herself :(

You can still support her as a friend but it doesn't have to be in the form of birthday celebrations.

You sound lovely OP, and it wouldn't hurt to ask say, one more time... but there is nothing worse than people trying to push you into things you don't want to do, so be gentle.

What about just a drink at a bar with the 2 of you (and maybe a couple of others.) She may even meet someone.

On reading your OP again Sienna, is your friend actually unhappy or are you assuming she is because she is single and living with mum?

Has she said she is miserable. Otherwise a pity party won't go down with her.

You still sound nice, but she won't want pity.

I mean a party won't go down well with her.

PITY party! ARGH!!

She hasn't said she is unhappy in so many words but her behaviour suggests she is lately.
I don't want her to think of this as a pity party. Maybe she feels we want her to come out as we feel sorry for her which I don't want her to think. With the exception of me, all our friends of the same age are married, have kids and own houses. Maybe her birthday highlights those differences. :(