About this fund raising

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A friend of my neighbour suddenly passed away very young 25ish recently it was very sad we live in a large village lots of people knew her people were quite shaken (she had gone to sleep and just never woke up). I don't know her or her family but obviously felt for them it was a horrible thing to happen my heart goes out to her parents.

Anyway my neighbour is fund raising for a memorial for her she started a go fund me page and is doing an activity I chose not to donate my reasons are I donate to a charity that helped our family and tend to stick to that, I don't know the family and since it's mostly people who knew her the average donation is £20 which I don't really have. So that was all good I just didn't.

The neighbour then started to tag people on fb including me asking for donations which I felt was a but unfair if they want to donate they will. Now i've got a txt msg asking for money i'm a bit peeved I feel i'm being forced into it now. I'm thinking should I just give a fiver and be done but then I don't like being pushed into 'donating'. If it was for funeral costs or something I would probably just go ahead but from what I understand they want to put a bench or something outside the social club with her name on so it's not an immediate need.

AIBU to ignore or should I just give the money.

I would just say that you don't have the cash to spare.
Hopefully the person asking will them be embarrassed enough to stop asking

You have the choice of to who and where you donate. Don't feel guilty, you have already chosen your charity. I always feel that donations are made voluntarily

No I'd be pissed off too. You've chosen not to donate and that's your right. It's horrific this young lady died, but all the money/memorial benches in the world won't bring her back. As you say, if it was for funeral costs then that's different. YANBU

They're probably not targeting you directly, just tagging and contacting as many people who haven't already donated as possible in case there are some who would donate but forgot about it, were waiting for payday or whatever.

As soon as you actually respond to the request I'm sure it'll stop as they'll no longer think you're a potential donor, but your silence so far unfortunately means they still see you as a potential.

Just reply to the text saying thanks for thinking of me, I've chosen not to donate as I'm already supporting other charities and it's great to see you care so much about this girl/the memorial. Only a royally rude bell end would come back from something like that.