5th wedding anniversary

[Oneandoneontheway]

So the situation is this , have a 2.5 year old ds and 9 week old dd - am exhausted and run ragged - plus have just moved house. Today was our 5 year wedding anniversary, hubby decided to hit the pub after work ,eventually came home, no card ( i had one for him ) proceeded to have a few glasses of wine and has now been asleep on the sofa for 2 hours. I am so angry and plan on going mad tomorrow- even asked if he would watch the kids tomorrow for an hour so i could go swimming- he said no, cause 2 kids were hard to handle ??? Aibu to be cross ?

No. Get up and dressed early and then just tell him you're going swimming before he has chance to argue.

Don't even tell him. Just go out before anyone is up. Would he ask your permission?

(That getting up thing might be 3am though if you were in my house...)

Congratulations op you've married a selfish arsehole

I often wonder when I read posts like this if having children and being a family is something the DH/DP really wanted.
As it seems a lot of the men mentioned on these threads use their wife/partner as an doormat, while they are off out doing there own thing without a thought for their wife and children.

OP your husband is a prize arsehole for treating you like this.

I'd be Cross about him saying 2 kids are too hard to handle. Who else is going to look after them?

Personally I wouldn't go mad, just go for a swim and tell him you are disappointed. But in general YANBU

Hes super apologetic today and is going to make sure i can fit in a swim tomorrow morning. Men can be so thoughtless sometimes ! I am calmer! Thanks for your replies x

Dh forgot our fourth. I bounded into the bedroom with his card and presents. The look on his face was special. He didn't forget out of spite he genuinely doesn't remember this sort of thing.