New job ungratefulness?

[FlirtyCat]

I know IABU but this is my situation.

I have had the worst 6 months, unemployed and homeless. Today after months of applying for jobs, I've been offered a position. In my new job I will not be allowed to wear acrylic nails.

So even though I should be elated that I'll finally be able to get back on my feet, I can't shift feeling sad about not wearing acrylics. I know this sounds silly but I suffer from depression and borderline personality disorder and getting my nails done (by my DP who is nail technician) is the only bit of self care I manage most the time. It offers me a little bit of comfort having them on knowing some part of me is put together.

AIBU and totally ungrateful for thinking this? I know most people won't understand but it's the only thing I've always been able to do when I feel rubbish.

How long are they? I don't really know any company that wouldn't allow nails of a decent length whether they are fake or not.

Lots of medical industries won't allow false nails or varnish because of infection control. I was an RNLD before I went into teaching, and we couldn't wear nail varnish. Nails had to be scrupulously clean.

I know some of the big consultancies don't allow false nails or nail polish because it's considered unprofessional in a conservative working environment.

I get my nails painted over no tips....with a thin layer of acrylic and then white tips painted on ....looks natural

@JustHereForThePooStories No sorry I don't live with my partner. Currently staying with parents.

The job is a nursery nurse by the way.

DP saying he likes his space

Your boyfriend won't love you if you don't have false nails? Really? Tell him to do one!

@silverbell64 that's not what I've said but must admit you gave me a little chuckle at the misunderstanding

that's how it read. Now I'm chuckling. I work in the same industry Flirty and false nails are fine but they need to be shortened where I work.

Would you be able to have shellac polish instead of acrylics?

Space in a relationship can be a good thing for you both I get that with BPD that's probably going to trigger an abandonment schema so might be hard to hear, but it doesn't have to be all or nothing with relationships. Can you just date casually and see how it goes?

Well yes, you are being unreasonable but given your mental state you can't really be expected to be reasonable. Maybe find something else to replace the acrylics? A nice manicure? Or maybe getting your hair styled- I'm assuming DP won't mind having a crack at it or someone else in your family.

What exactly has the nursery stipulated you can't do with your nails?

I'd invest in a UV or LED nail light box and a base and top coat and a pale colour coat of something like Harmony Gelish, keep the nails quite short (I do mine) and they will look mint and the product is brush in bottle so you can do it yourself.

Taking total disregard for the instructions (which because it's a soak-off product you're meant to soak it off every fortnight and start again with foundation layer, colour layers, top layer) and I just file the surface and nail ends back and neaten everything up every couple of weeks. No tips required unlike acrylics but then you'd not be going for length anyway.

It's super shiny and hardwearing and I've just gone no type of nail covering at all for a bit having had nails on for months and my nails are in really good nick so.

Sorry about your other half - focus on the new job above all else (and see what others have their nails like so you're 100% sure) and use your first pay packet to get your nail stuff purchased and then take it from there in the relationship department.

Have your nails but keep them short so they don't look fake.

Best example of RTFT

Sorry op, but looks like a case of when one part of your life picks up anther falls down!

Focus on your new job and hey on the bright side you aren't going to have to start paying for your nails