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Would you be pissed off or do I need to chill?

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Shinyhappypeople78 · 01/09/2017 14:43

Sah here to 3 DC youngest nursery age.
We went away for a Monday to Friday break visiting family and stay g in self catering accommodation without dh as he was working.
We than net up for a two week holiday ending today.
I arrived home with children first as dh wanted to stop somewhere enroute and didn't want to take youngest. All OK.
Now before I went away we had issues with the garage freezer and had to throw lots away.
Most of this was placed in the outside food waste bar one bag. I specifically asked dh to put that in the Outside bin once it had been emptied. He did this and also chucked out rest of rubbish but didn't replace bin bags. I can live with this.
But also awaiting us was mouldy bread, empty crisp packets, dirty kitchen worktops and random plate and I haven't been upstairs yet
Now Aibu to expect the house to be as clean as I left it nearly 3 weeks ago.
All he had to do was keep the place tidy in the evening from Monday to Friday I know he was working all day but I had kids with me and still kept the accommodation tidy.
Aibu to be pissed off.

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BlackeyedSusan · 01/09/2017 16:08

depends how many crisp packets, how dirty the work surface was, and what the hell you find upstairs.

a couple of crisp packets, a few crumbs or drips, one plate... ok, several days worth of muck that looks like it has been welded on... taking the piss.

PovertyJetset · 01/09/2017 16:27

neutrogenA again and again I see you pipe up with the most awful advice.

It's sooooooo disrespectful op and I would do sweet eff all.

Cambionome · 01/09/2017 16:48

Totally disrespectful. Don't listen to the apologists for useless men on here, Op. Why is his mess your responsibility?

flumpybear · 01/09/2017 18:19

Do what my husband does ... book the cleaner to come the day before we get home lol 😂 it saves lots of rows and grumping!!

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/09/2017 18:25

Don't listen to the apologists for useless men on here, Op.

Someone who doesn't clear up food waste before a two week holiday isn't an adult.

InsomniacAnonymous · 01/09/2017 18:28

Notonthestairs "I'm afraid I went Red Ross."

Well, I Googled Red Ross so as not to appear helpless and got this and I'm none the wiser. Confused

Gemini69 · 01/09/2017 20:40

InsomniacAnonymous

I'm assuming.... cross ? Confused

Notonthestairs · 01/09/2017 20:59

Insomniac- sorry, I'm old, it was a Friends programme reference to when the prat Ross character went nuts at playing Rugby. Blush

Afreshstartplease · 02/09/2017 07:15

I do hope knowing about red ross doesnt make one old! Im only 29! Although may be old before my time as my friends were most confused when i spoke of my monicas cupboard!

HaudYerWheeshtBawbag · 02/09/2017 07:18

Let it go, you both have different cleaning standards it's a never ending fight that simply just isn't the battle, if the place is a pig sty, then it would be a different matter, but it's a few plates and crumbs.

mygorgeousmilo · 02/09/2017 08:23

I would be furious! Coming home to a spotless and empty house always rounds off the holiday so nicely for me, and there's no excuse for him being a slob. YANBU

Shinyhappypeople78 · 02/09/2017 18:01

He did apologize about mouldy bread but it would seem that wiping down worktops were not even on radar.
But I accepted apology and asked him to wipe down counters now and in future.

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