to think that it's my problem I only attract cheaters?

[wasp1993]

I'm completely fed up with relationships of any kind. Been in 6 relationships and all of them have cheated on me! It's not about "where do you meet them" either because the aforementioned people I dated have come from school x2, work x2, church, and volunteering. I have also never, ever in my lifetime got into a relationship with someone who is already with someone else so it's not as if they're "clear cheater types".

Do cheaters look for specific types of people??? Is there some magical way to "spot a cheater" so I know what to look out for???

Sorry if I sound angry I'm just so incredibly frustrated right now.

It's not your fault, but maybe they're spotting something that either makes them think they'll get away with it or that you don't deserve fidelity.
That's a nicely diverse pool they're from though! What were ur first dates like? Can you spot any similarities?

Dawnedlightly that's what I was wondering too. Statistically this doesn't seem to be that common from those around me so I'm wondering if I'm the common denominator here.

The thing is that 1/2 of those I'd dated started off as us being friends/close colleagues first. So I should've seen some signs but apparently not. Maybe I'm just a horrible judge of people!

Did they approach you first? Cheaters are the kind who find it easy to approach women and 'try their luck'. You may just have been a fish who bit.

I read on here to 'never trust man who tells you "you have beautiful eyes" because he will cheat'. Of course that can't be an absolute truth but I think there is a grain of truth there.

EVERYONE has beautiful eyes and so it's a very shallow compliment. If he can't find something else, something more personal and meaningful then he's not that attached. So watch out for shallow compliments.

If I were you I'd think about what attracts you to men you have dated (charm? Confidence? Looks?) And see if there might be a clue there.

Did they mistreat you in other ways, or just the cheating? I'd think someone who has such a blatant disrespect for you would show that in other, subtle ways, but perhaps that's just wishful thinking ... we would all like to be able to spot a cheater.

Before getting into another relationship, it may be worth you working on getting to know yourself better and improving your self esteem? Don't settle for second best and honestly, no man in your life is a thousand times better than a cheating one.

Good luck.

Intellectually I feel like this cannot be a thing, but anecdotally I have seen it a fair bit.