in a nut shell she has spent the whole summer working leaving all her childcare to my mum.....5 days a week.
She has the week off as my mum has (run) gone away.
Every single day she wants to do stuff with us. If I say no she tries to manipulate the situation or rearrange my plans. She does this all the time with my mum too if she says no to anything.....becomes abusive until my mum backs down.
I quite enjoy just pottering around the house with the kids just getting on with their own activities.....the kids are happy like this too.
She rings off the hook.....if you don't answer she will ring again and then send messages. I get accused of making no effort with her but actually I just can't cope with her most of the time. I have an illness which is triggered by stress and she quite often ends up making me feel really ill.
Her behaviour has always been like this so it's normal for her but I don't think its normal in the grand scheme of things.
I try to stand up for myself and say no but sometimes she makes it completely impossible. Ironically wjen we are together she's not that bad to be around but the moment you give in the nagging and bullying behaviour to get you to do what she wants becomes more frequent. She can be really nasty to me at times using really personal things against me or stuff I e casually mentioned in other conversations in an attempt to upset me. I don't deny I'm pretty defensive around her but I feel that is only as a result of her nasty behaviour and the tone of voice that she feels is perfectly acceptable to talk to me in.
I can't cut her out and dont want to because it would create a huge fracture in my family and it would end up ruining my relationship with my mum.
I have 4 days left before I return to work and have stuff I need to get done and I'd quite like to chill out too.