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To report my 'D'Sis for her online trolling?

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monkeysee100 · 30/08/2017 08:58

I got on well with my DSis despite her overblown sense of self and pathological lying mainly because I would catch her out and not fall for it. She's a lot younger than the rest of the siblings and has been totally over indulged and has a massive superiority complex, forever trying to 'make it' through hare brained reality tv schemes or get rich quick things when she and her 'D'P are funded mostly by his über wealthy parents. She has found a partner who is universally unliked but DPs again indulge this. Even when they turn up to stay for days, pretty much unannounced. For example, three days after we moved into new house and in the near future bringing his family too!!!

I'm getting miffed because she keep posting things on social media like she's so bloody perfect eg having a pop at people who like. drink when she has been banned for drink driving. Or her current one is to body shame others when she has very disordered eating in the vain hope of being a model. It makes me so bloody angry!

I can't confront her directly because it causes such tension with DPs. So have to content myself with reporting her bloody posts!!

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monkeysee100 · 30/08/2017 09:31

Funnily enough after her adventures she says I'm the golden one! Smile

But distance would be good- if they didn't turn up unnannounced!

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Maelstrop · 30/08/2017 09:33

Just unfollow her, you're not the parent or Facebook police.

juneau · 30/08/2017 09:33

You and your DPs can do nothing about the person she is choosing to date. What would you like them to do anyway? She's an adult. She can go out with whomever she pleases. If he's a cock she will, presumably, at some point, realise that. But dating a total cock, simply because he is rich, is hardly the recipe for happiness.

Hide her posts. Do not follow her on FB, Twitter or whatever. If she is spewing bile at people and making nasty, judgemental, unkind comments then she will soon find herself without friends. That is her lookout. I would step back, stick your fingers in your ears and sing 'La, la, la'.

Peanutbuttercheese · 30/08/2017 09:35

She sounds horrible but that isn't really trolling is it. Actual trolling is lying, making threats etc.

Let her live in her own misery, if someone turned up on my doorstep I would send them away if I didn't want impromptu guests for a few days. Sadly she knows she can do it to you which is why she did.

You cannot change anyone just your reaction to their behaviour, distance yourself.

juneau · 30/08/2017 09:35

And if she turns up unannounced, simply tell her that she cannot stay, because it isn't convenient. Make it clear that your house is not one she can just waltz in and out of at her convenience. FWIW, she sounds vile, and you're going to have to be firm to distance yourself, but it sounds like it will be well worth the effort!

strawberrisc · 30/08/2017 09:37

I don't think the sister is the one with mental health issues...

SparklingBollox · 30/08/2017 09:37

Maybe next time she turns up unannounced you could invite her in for lunch or a brew if it suits you and say that's it for this visit. It's it just her that gets to pick and chose dates and times. If it's inconvenient you can say so.

I know how infuriating it can be, I really do.

KatharinaRosalie · 30/08/2017 09:37

DPs again indulge this. Even when they turn up to stay for days, pretty much unannounced. For example, three days after we moved into new house

So your parents indulge her by letting her stay in your house? Or you live with your parents and are upset that your sister wants to visit?

SparklingBollox · 30/08/2017 09:38

What exactly is your point strawberrisc ?

ikeadyounot · 30/08/2017 09:39

I don't think it's uncommon for people who come from dysfunctional families to have problems setting boundaries. But that is precisely what you need to do here - and it's down to YOU to do this as a grown-up. If she turns up at your house, you simply need to tell her it's not convenient, that you're about to head out for a quiet family walk after a hell of a week, and could she please ring in future to check whether you are in. Get a book on assertiveness, it will help.

TheNaze73 · 30/08/2017 09:39

Is there all there is too this? There's a real tone to your OP. Are you jealous?

Peanutbuttercheese · 30/08/2017 09:41

Plus I guarantee that she is messed up wanting to be a model. It's the ultimate in attention seeking. I lived in that world when young, I didn't actually want to do it but was pushed in to it by my Mother who is the ultimate attention seeker and when her theatrical and modelling career was over pushed her two youngest daughter in to it so she could still be attached to that world.

ReanimatedSGB · 30/08/2017 09:45

If she is saying things to other people it is up to them to decide whether to report her or block her. Not you. Some people just laugh at insults from someone they think is a fuck up, some people like to fight back for themselves, etc.
Step away.

headinhands · 30/08/2017 09:51

Crikey most people go around judging other people. Just hide her posts. If she's as narcissistic as you say, she would love to hear how wound up you are.

Ttbb · 30/08/2017 09:58

She's the definition of a failure in life. Just let her live her little dream and move on with your life.

strawberrisc · 30/08/2017 10:00

Sparklingbollox is it not clear?

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 30/08/2017 10:11

OP, I hear you, but as you say, she is much younger than the rest of you, hopefully, she'll find her feet eventually, just let her get on with it. It sounds like she has issues, be a good sister, and catch her when/if she falls. It sounds like she thinks highly of you, keep it that way, don't close the door.

MyRedPepper · 30/08/2017 10:18

If she is saying things to other people it is up to them to decide whether to report her or block her. Not you
Not quite sure about that.
For one, of this is on FB, they might not have seen it so won't able to defend themselves.
But they might also be people with their own issues, e.g. MH issues or whatever other problems we all have at some oint in our life, and they might well not be in the right place to be able to answer.
Ime, depending on how the insult is put. Together, you can actually feel hurt by the comment wo being able to out into words why (and therefore be able to answer that comment).

Besides, if, let's say someone was making a racist comment, would you really say that it's not your problem because you are not black/Asian/whatever background?? That you wouldn't challenge racism when you see it?

GammaDelta · 30/08/2017 10:22

Your sister coming unannounced is not right n you should talk to get about it.

For fb posts, if its bothering you, as most have said here, just unfollow her.

SparklingBollox · 30/08/2017 10:30

Strawb, it looks like your using mh issues as an insult, which is pretty cunty imo. I may have the wrong end of the stick though.

wowfudge · 30/08/2017 10:33

Unfriend her on Facebook and don't let her stay with you if you don't want her to. I think you need to not feel responsible for her actions and take a step away.

LuLuuuuuuu · 30/08/2017 10:34

What your DSis is doing is not trolling

strawberrisc · 30/08/2017 10:42

SparklingBollox you've grabbed the wrong end of the stick and run off into the sunset with it! Someone earlier in the thread diagnosed said sister with mh issues which was cunty.

Isetan · 30/08/2017 10:46

She's a pain and you're jealous but passing it off as supposedly occupying the moral high ground.

Ignore and block, it ain't rocket science.

pigeondujour · 30/08/2017 10:50

Good luck reporting her for trolling. Facebook will barely remove overt racism let alone your sister annoying you.