To have no sympathy for DH?

[Sirrah]

He's come home from work, and the first words out of his mouth were "I've got a bad foot!"

It's gout, he gets it pretty regularly, usually after he's been on a red meat binge. He ate far too much bacon over the bank holiday weekend. And sausages. And alcohol. Entirely his own fault!

Anyway, now he's hobbling around, huffing and puffing, making sure everyone knows he's "ill". I just can't muster any sympathy, in fact I'm finding it hard to resist strangling him. AIBU?

Yes. You bloody are.

He over indulged over the weekend and now he's paying for it, so what?
Next time you have a hangover and have a head like a bowling ball I hope he cranks up his favourite band at full volume.

Gout is horrifically painful.

YANBU - my husband used to have gout and yes it is horribly painful. However he refused to modify his diet or lifestyle or to take prescribed medication as he 'didn't like taking pills'. My sympathy ran out quite quickly

Falling I don't have hangovers, I drink very little.

Purple I'm sure it hurts, but I doubt it's as bad as childbirth or pancreatitis! He has always had a very low pain threshold, even very minor injuries lead to massive overreactions and days of moaning.

MadCat that's exactly it! He refuses to do anything to prevent it, stubborn old git. If I suggest something, I'm nagging. If I say nothing, I don't care. After 30 years my patience has completely run out.

Gout is hell on earth. I speak from experience and you are being totally BU!

Purple I'm sure it hurts, but I doubt it's as bad as childbirth or pancreatitis!

I'm afraid you are wrong. It can be just as bad as that.

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Pain/Pages/20-painful-conditions.aspx

I wouldn't feel sorry if he very obviously brought it onto himself.

OP - yeah I thought you'd say that, predictable.

The way you've worded your post suggests that your DH doing this (over-indulging) is the exception rather than the rule. He over did it over the bank holiday weekend and you can't muster even a bit of sympathy? Even in a jokey light hearted manner? Something along the lines of "ah you silly sod, I told you! Was I right?! Huh?! Was I was I?!" and then take it easy on him?

If he was regularly doing things that cause him to have a flare up of his gout, things which he could avoid then I'd completely get you but your post suggests this is not the norm so I think you should be a bit more easy going.

I can see why you are frustrated but you are being a bit harsh imo. I wouldn't be fawning all over him but equally I wouldn't be mean to him.

PeterBlue hell on earth is not being able to get comfortable, no matter what you do. He is perfectly happy, lying on the sofa and being waited on!

Falling there's a clue in my post - "pretty regularly". It's far from unusual for him to have gout, probably 8 to 10 times a year.

OP yes I did see that bit, but is it over indulgence that causes it even most of the time? Or is it just one of those things? Not a gout guru here but if it's just one of those things that he gets then YABU. Even if he's done something to aggravate it, unless it's always or mostly caused by avoidable things then YABU.

I would probably just ignore him when he mentions it, he knew what would happen and still did it anyway. He wouldn't deserve my wrath but wouldn't deserve much sympathy either. If the pain is that bad and he knows what causes it and is completely avoidable then he shouldn't do it.