Husband and nights out

[remy85]

AIBU that my husband is going out with his friends 3 Saturdays in September all different occasions. One of the weeks he's out the Saturday then flies that Sunday night for a week long work conference which will involve nights out and then home the Friday and back out the Saturday for another night out so I won't have had a break in nearly 9 days. I've been invited on one of the nights out but we've no baby sitter so as it's his friends party rightly he should go. Our two children are 5 and 5 months. He says he doesn't stop me going out but my friend lives in a different town so if I do go out I can't drink as I've to drive back as she has a small baby and no room and my other friend works weekends and is only off during the week which doesn't work with me as I've to be up early for kids/school. The other day my son was at a play date so it was just me and him and our 5 month old and we went for lunch and he text his family to see if the wanted to join us. We don't get out much as a couple so I was a bit upset especially as I kept saying this is a great idea a day date. I think my husband feels it's a sign of weakness saying no he can't go out as none of his friends have kids yet but will soon. Looking for some advice please as I'm starting to feel a bit trapped.

I wouldn't appreciate him not prioritising time with family, what is he scared of?
Texting his family suggesting they join your lunch together was unfortunate if it's such a rare event.
I think my husband feels it's a sign of weakness saying no he can't go out as none of his friends have kids yet
Does he worry others will say he's under your thumb?

It's convenient too how he heads off running right at bedtime too for the DC so you're left carrying the workload. If he wants to run, he can do it after the DC are in bed.

^^ This.

I think my husband feels it's a sign of weakness saying no he can't go out as none of his friends have kids yet but will soon.

I think it's more pathetic that he won't say he can't come out tonight because he has a family and responsibilities at home! I understand it can be hard when none of your friends have children yet, but I'd be more admiring of someone who was willing to say "actually, no. I'll have been away with work all week and want to spend time with remy and the children - maybe another time".

Is he avoiding being with you and the kids ? The fact he invites other people to join you when you have the rare opportunity to have some time on your own ? He gets home from work and is then out running . Gets home from a work trip and goes out with friends , it's like he's doin what he can to take him out of the home situation.

I think you need to sit him down and have a frank chat about this . He's acting like a single man and you're being left to pick up the slack as being a single Mum almost.

Book a child minder and have some time out yourself. Start leaving him act like a single man . Let him sort out his own washing, his own meals and let him iron his own work shirts because it seems like he's happy to leave you home playing wifey whilst he goes out and enjoys himself .