I need to plan something.

[TheAwkwardMother]

I like planning something exciting life changing events. Past events like moving in to our first home together, having our first baby, our engagement, our wedding, our second baby. I want a big event to look forward to and plan. I feel like we have done everything so young that we have completed all our goals. I mean we do have yearly holidays but that's not the same🙈! Does anyone else feel like this?

No. I was married at 20, first baby at 21.

I have had another child. But he is 7 now.

I like enojing other peoples events instead.

Throwing a big bash is great. But happiness comes from being content with the everyday stuff imo.

@Gorgosparta oh I don't like throwing big bashes for others to enjoy. I like having something to look forward to with my own little family. I moved in with my partner at 18, engaged at 18, first child at 19, our first home at 20, second child at 21, married at 23. I feel like we have rushed things🙈!

I also suffer with social anxiety and depression so I don't go out much. We keep ourselves to ourselves so having something to look forward to together means a lot and it keeps me busy planning things in my spare time instead of mulling over past trauma.

Then maybe deal with that rather than trying to come up something big to distract you?

I dont feel i rushed things or that i need something big. A weekend in london, a meal with friends, kids birthdays are all enough for me personally.

But we are all different

Surprise birthday party for someone?

How about a Christening / naming ceremony for your children?

@Gorgosparta. I've been in therapy since the age of 17. One of the coping techniques was keep the mind busy and wright things down so things don't become too much. I do love day to day activities with my family but I also like to plan things for us to enjoy too, things that take a lot of planning over a wide space of time🙈!

@MiddleClassProblem @Nicae Thank you both. My dad's birthday will actually be his 50th soon so that's a possibility. And I do love to plan things especially for my children, I even plan going back to school to a T🙈x

How about planning some education or career goals for yourself? Sounds like you have a lot of energy you could channel into positive life goals.

Christmas is all sorted and their birthdays next year are also planned to the smallest of details🙈x

Have a look on Pinterest! Guarantee it'll make you want to redecorate or start some random craft idea!

@WORKWORKWORKWORKWORKWORK Oh I love Pinterest, I would be scrolling though the pages all day if I could😂x

Renewal of wedding vows?

I have a friend who gets 'married' again every 5 years in different destinations. Lots of work but the vegas thing looked amazing.

They're a happy bunch. She just likes doing the big bash thing.

I hated the planning first time around so will give it a swerve thanks

@Babymamamama I would love to get my teeth into something that takes a lot more thinking/ skill. I work for my stepmother at the minute at home, I just do her book works for her business but I don't really leave the house🙈!

@gamerchick I love the thought of renewing my vows. Just as a small thing this time though. My dad and stepmother helped plan my last wedding and it went into a big bash, I don't really like being around large groups🙈! I would love to do it my way next time!!x

Perfect then. Have the wedding you originally wanted

Or you could plan a fundraiser?

How about planning to dig a well somewhere where there is no water or plan a food bank or plan to help asylum seekers

OP I'm not sure what you mean by book works but if you are good at numbers maybe you could do an accountancy or finance course. Home study or part time? Sometimes people who have families early on take time to blossom into what they'd like to do career wise.