To think that life is passing me by?

[Popcornandjam]

I'm on a bit of a downer at the moment; DD1 is due to move out soon and I'll miss her more than words can say, so that could influence my thinking at the moment. Knowing she is spreading her wings and starting her adult life, while my life plods on.

I'm worried that I'm not doing enough with my life. I know Facebook is the work of the devil, but even if I wanted to, I never have anything to post.

I have a relatively successful career and mix there, although as a manager I don't get invited to everything, and wouldn't want to be.

I never go to parties, BBQs, on holiday with friends or anything social. I don't want to. I have a couple of very close friends I see every six months or so, and some close friends at work I socialise with occasionally.

But apart from that I just want to be with my family. I want to spend my time with DH, and DDs before they both leave home. I see DPs regularly and have a great relationship with them. I read, exercise and garden. My hobby is writing poetry.

All I want is to do what I am doing - staying at home with the people I love.

But I'm worried that, at 50, life is passing me by and that I should be doing more social things, meeting more people and going out more often now DCs are grown up.

I'd appreciate your thoughts.

Thanks.

Why would you want to do the things that don't make you happy just because other people do?

YOUR life isn't passing you by, YOUR life is what you make it for yourself. Do you like your life? If so, stop comparing it to other peoples.

If you are happy then there is no problem- don't do things just because you feel you have to.

You say you're not interested in doing anything anyway so this post makes no sense.

I'm not interested in doing those things, I just wondered if I wanted BU to not make more of an effort socially.

I don't understand what life is passing you by if you are content with the one you have? Many people would be envious of what you have. Be mindful, live in the moment and appreciate what you have!

Are you happy with doing the things you do?

If so, life isnt passing you by.

I have spent many years being content spending my time with dh and kids. Seeing friends occassionally, reading etc.

In the last year i havent felt that content. So gone back to my hobby, started going out a bit more, arranging things.

Its about being happy. Not doing whay everyone else is doing

I think your DD moving out is naturally making you down, it also gives you a jolt when you look back at how quickly her childhood went and makes you reassess your own life. If you get on well, no longer having her company on tap will be hard! It's perfectly normal to look at your life at such a milestone. I am in the same boat, I am 55, my DD leaves next week and I am dreading it.

You sound more content than me - a disappointing bank holiday - where I didn't plan anything - has made me realise I'm in a rut and need to do more. You could try a little more socialising and see how it goes?