To feel a bit pi**ed off with ex-H

[pinkchampagne]

He was out in France all day Friday with my parents, went out drinking last night from 7pm - at least 3am, and today he arranged to go & meet his friends at the pub at mid-day.
I had arranged to meet up with a friend this afternoon & she said that we could maybe nip out for a quick afternoon drink if H was about.
I asked him if he could be around late afternoon, so that we could perhaps nip out for an hour or so, and he said there was no point in him going out at all if he had to rush back.
I arranged for my friend to come & visit me at home, seen as I was at home with both boys, which she did & has now gone home.
H is still at the pub & I am feeling a bit fed up!
We have been separated for the last 9 months, but are still living under the same roof due to house sale etc.
Just feel fed up that he is always the one to enjoy himself, but I guess that I need to accept this is how it is going to be!

Sorry, this seems kind of pathetic, but I am fed up with the way he has just felt he could go out whenever he pleased since the start of all this, while I am always at home taking care of the children!
I guess I need to get used to it!

No, you're not unreasonable, although your ex-H's irresponsible attitude and excessive drinking are two of the reasons he is an ex (at least they would be if it was me).

I think when you're properly single you'll probably be able to be more flexible about asking for babysitting favours from friends in exchange for some 'you' time. I'm not convinced that in childcare terms it's going to be any worse for you - and in every other way it's going to be better!

Hi, tribpot.

I have never posted under this topic before, but I am getting a bit fed up with him constantly going out & enjoying himself. I am probably over sensitive atm though & know that I need to get used to being on my own with the children for the majority of the time, so should really stop my moaning!!

I reckon you probably are on your own with the kids most of the time already - remember how surprised you were when I told you my dh takes care of ds on his own. Every day. And he's both chronically ill and disabled!

I do cope on my own most of the time as it is, tribpot, and this is what I have to keep reminding myself everytime I have a panic about being totally alone.
Your DH is a star to look after DS while coping with his illness.

Don't know if you have seen my other thread, but I should be moving pretty soon now!!

Great news pinkchampagne, hope you will be having some pink champagne to celebrate when you spend your first night in your new home!

I'm sure I will be drinking something, tribpot!

I am starting to get a little scared now, but I am also pleased that things are finally moving on!

make sure kids are ready early next weekend and go out for the day and night next week
and leave him with the kids

Sounds like a good plan, doormat!

He turned up eventually & took DS1 round to my parents house, where he spent the rest of the evening!
I am probably a bit touchy in general atm, but it just seems that he has it all his way & I rarely get out myself.